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Dealing with the aftermath of a breakup

Louise

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Three weeks ago my BF and I seperated after 13 years together. We'd been on and off for the previous month and things had been rocky for the last 12 months, probably around the time I stopped regularly posting here. It was the right decision but it's still upsetting after being with someone for so long. I'm keeping busy and trying not to dwell on it too much.

Hopefully I'll rediscover my clothes mojo which has been absent for a while, thank heavens for the wardrobe I'd built up when I was a regular here and thanks to 'the breakup diet' I'm back in my skinny jeans x

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kellygirl

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Oh, I'm sorry, Louise. Even when you know it's the right decision, break ups are hard. On the bright side, maybe we will get to see more of you around here. I miss your posts! Take care!

rachylou

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Life is what it is. But yeah, I know. I think you're doing the right thing. And anyways, good solid fashion values are always where it counts

milehighstyle (Linda)

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I'm sorry to hear that, Louise. That's a difficult adjustment to make in your life. Wishing you the best.

LACeleste

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I am very sorry to hear that Louise. You are smart to keep busy. Wishing you well in your rediscovery. Style has been a great solace for me in tough times and I hope it helps you also.

Caro in Oz

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Sorry to hear about your break up. Glad you feel it was the right thing
Take care & enjoy your fashion.

Anonymous

Sorry to hear that, Louise.

Sveta

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I am sorry Louise, hang up there! Hugs!

Mo

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Ooh, tough time. I think coming here and back to fashion could help focus away from what's 'missing' and be a great diversion.

Kristin L

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I'm so sorry Louise. I'm sending you big hugs. I can't wait to see what you put together!

MsMary

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Hugs, Louise. I know how you feel -- Mr. K and I separated last April after 16 years together, married 14, and even though it was a necessary step it's been horrifically painful! Please take good care of your dear self and know that we are here for you!

Angie

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(((HUGS)))

It's so, so, so rough. You have to find your new normal. It will take a while. Distraction is best. Take care and spend time with loved ones. xo

cheryle (Dianthus)

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So sorry to hear you are sad. Try not to hole up inside alone to wallow. Get out and take a zumba class or art class or any other activity that gets you out with people. Keeping busy is the best course of action. Soon you will see that your life is full and happy again.

Beth Ann

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Sorry to hear that you have been going through a difficulty transition. Sometimes taking care of outer self --- maybe with a regular dose of YLF, a bit of exercise, wonderful, healthy food, can make a difference in our inner lives, too.

Wishing you a beautiful new year!

annagybe

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I'm so, so sorry.

This is a really, really good book.

http://www.amazon.com/Survive-.....F8&qi

Suz

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So sorry, Louise - it's really hard, even when it is the right thing. Hang in there.

deb

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Louise, I am so sorry you are going through this. I wish the best for you.

Deborah

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Louise I am sorry to hear this. Take care and I'm sending you a big hug.

Mary Beth (formerly LBD)

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Louise, we are here for you! If you ever need to talk, send a message. *hugs*

Anonymous

I am so sorry you are going thru this. I have only dated three people my entire life and broke off a long engagement of 14 years, with someone prior to my current relationship. I do know how you feel and it is awful. My best advice is to take it easy on yourself and find things to occupy your mind on. It does get better, I promise.

catgirl

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Hugs to you, Louise. I have missed you here.

Scarlet

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I am so sorry you are going through a painful break-up Louise. I have missed you around here and been hoping that everything is okay.

Jeanie

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So sorry. Be kind to yourself.

Louise

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Dear sweet ladies thank you for the kind words and hugs it means so much

Dianthus and Beth Ann I managed 2 Zumba classes last week. I would have done 3 but my knee was playing up a bit! My YLF self isn't totally gone as I had great fun getting colourful sports bras and cute workout clothes.

Annagybe thanks for the book recommendation, I'm off to order it.

Zapotee he was only my second boyfriend too.

I'm taking it a day at a time but I think I've ended up with quite a nice social balance going at the moment, 2/3 Zumba classes a week, 1/2 nights/days out with friends and family and a couple of nights/ weekend days to get in my pjs and sit in bed with a cat or 2 and watch c#@p TV and cry if I need to. I'm not much for public displays of wailing and weeping and thankfully friends and family have been great and not asked for details, I don't think I could give them without snivelling x

Glory

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I am so sorry to hear this. I agree distraction is good, especially Zumba of which I am a huge fan. For the tricky knee, try going every second day and perhaps skip the samba. xo

bj1111

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louise! i missed your fab style. i'm sorry you are in this. as you've discovered, it's going to suck for a while. eventually ...at some point in the future...you'll discover you're less miserable then funnily enough you're happy again.

Anonymous

I'm so sorry to hear what a sad time you're going through Louise. It's obviously difficult for you after 13 years together. You will eventually find your way back on to the path of happiness. ((hugs))

Sheila

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Just one more vote for taking good care of yourself at this point...sounds like you're doing that. Sorry about the breakup but it happens to all of us and is something to forge through, get to the other side and enjoy a better life. Not easy, though. Be kind to yourself in every way.

rae

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I won't say I'm sorry, because it sounds like a good thing overall. The emotional fallout has got to be hard, though. Sending major hugs and virtual chocolates.

Anonymous

I am so sorry to hear about your breakup. The pain can be unbelievable.

To tell the truth, I personally have not always dealt that well with painful breakups. I wish you something better.

My advice is that no matter how hard it is to "do something." Anything. Although going the gym is one of the hardest things I can think of suggesting, I found that once I was there I really did feel better. Anything cardio helped me. Shopping helps because it gets you out of the house. I don't usually suggest shopping as a strategy …. but I have found it helps me.

Keep us posted on how you are doing. We care.

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