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anchie

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Change was my word of the year and here they are - new glasses and new hair. After 10 years of no color I really got bored with my gray hair. On top of that I got so many inappropriate and hurtful comments over the years that made me insecure. Last one was this summer when I was asked by pregnant sale assistant in her late thirties if my 15 year old was my granddaughter. Well, she is going to have teen in her fifties too, LOL, she should know better. So my hairdresser chose this temporary color that will wash out in few weeks just to test the water. He didn’t want to go too dark, because contrast with my roots would be too stark since I am more than 90% white. I am still adjusting and get little shocks every time I see my reflection. What do you think? I am naturally brunette, and not sure if this suits me. But I really needed a change.

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bj1111

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I loved your previous color and I love this one. I do think that this honey blonde is a good choice and the temporary is bonus. You can always go back with minimal pain

I’m so sorry that you experienced these hurtful if inadvertent comments. “The young” will grow into their grace.—says a curmudgeon

slim cat

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It's a lovely color - something like light ash blond to my eye ( close to what I've had years ago - lol ). I love it all - the hair, the frames and the smile! Play with it, experiment and don't let the stupid comments go to your head ( I've had some too ).
YLF!

Dee

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I like this colour on you too, along with your cool new glasses. I think the temporary colour is a great idea, let’s you adjust to all these changes and see where you want to go from there.

anchie

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Thank you bj1111, slim cat and Dee for your positive feedback. I had it done yesterday, so only my immediate family has seen me since. I wonder how will I feel about my wardrobe and colors in it.

Runcarla

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So, so, sorry that folks have made hurtful comments. I think the colour is ‘okay’ if you want to ‘blend in’ and pass under the radar, but it’s not as distinctive as your stunningly beautiful natural white.

I totally understand the desire to change things up. Keep talking to your stylist and see what suggestions he has.

anchie

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Runcarla- thank you for your nice words, but honestly since going gray I have been feeling already invisible.

When I first got Graves disease last November, my hair started falling out terribly, and I think I lost about 30% of my hair in few weeks. It is now growing back and my new hair is only maybe 10 cm long while longer parts are very thin and sparse. This all added to my dissatisfaction with my hair.

rachylou

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Looks fabulous! You’re putting me in mind of Sophia Loren Do what you want!

Angie

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What bj1111, said!

People need to shut their mouths. What's wrong with them????

I loved the silver grey, and I love the new blonde, anchie! An easy on the eyes transition, and YES - WE NEED CHANGE! (My word for the year too). Both beautiful on you - and a KILLER fun look

Welcome to Team Gold! It's a good metal for blondes

Now you can buy gold metal hardware Furlas with me......

anchie

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Angie- thank you, and yes, I am slowly transitioning to gold. I got new gold apple watch for my birthday, my new glasses have gold hardware, next will be belts and handbags with gold hardware. I always admired Furla bags, hopefully will finally have some in my collection too.

Sal

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You look great Anchie and I love your glasses too.

If your previous hair was getting you down then it’s good to try something new. You look wonderful both ways but I think you need to feel wonderful too.

LJP

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I absolutely second what Sally wrote!

kkards

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I love the idea of temporary color to test the waters! Your hair dresser is so smart!
I liked your “old” color and I like this color! I’m one of those people who feels changing our hair is absolutely amazing way to get a new look. YLF. And I hope you feel fab.

Kate

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I loved your old color, and I think the new color is beautiful. You have a very clever hairdresser. Do what you need to do, Anchie. Sometimes we just need a change.

Why people feel the need to comment on other people's looks I will never understand. Makes my palms itch to pop somebody!

Cardiff girl

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Well l thought your grey hair was beautiful,current and stylish but it’s all about how you feel isn’t it.The blonde suits you very well but is less of a statement.Maybe that’s what you need right now?I can understand when you have health issues and are feeling vulnerable how other peoples comments can hurt all the more .Just make sure any permanent changes you do are because you want to,not because of some passing comment.

Jenni NZ

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Oh Anchie I get it. It really helped me on my own grey hair thread when you were so honest about the mean comments you had had. And of course I’m sorry about the Graves disease as well, I have seen many people struggle with that.
This looks lovely and I think temporary is a good idea partly also to make an allergic reaction to the hair dye less likely. Enjoy the gold!

Kyle

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I love it all. A lot. I actually prefer the blonde. And while the blonde may not be as much of a statement as the silver was, I think the very bold specs really amp up your style and work with your hair for a great new vibe. Good for you for taking some risks, Anchie!

rachylou

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About other people: do y’all remember the conversation we once had here, about how where before you are 30, you are too young to have a baby and the moment you turn 30, you are too old???!!

One cannot win. Gotta laugh!

Jaime

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I'm glad you did this Anchie, although I am glaring at everyone that made you feel badly about your gorgeous silver hair. Hair color should make you feel good, and that's the end of the story really. Believe me if I could easily transition back and forth I would play with my hair color too.

Aquamarine

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I think it’s beautiful!

I loved your grey too (I saw it as white, actually, which I thought was stunning). How nice you can try this color out and see how you feel…lucky!

Janet

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I think it looks great either way, but I fully support wanting to try something different! And it makes me mad how rude some people can be.

So far no one has said anything negative about my hair transition, but I’m still not super enthused about it, and sometimes I fantasize about dyeing it again. I even talked with my stylist about whether there is some in-between color we could try for me that would be an easier transition than going all the way back to my base dark brunette color, but it’s tricky — going to anything else would necessitate warming the color up, and that’s really not the best on me. So… I guess I’m stuck with what I’ve got. So in a way, maybe consider yourself fortunate that you look so good in this more subtle tonal change!

Suz

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What Sally said. You look gorgeous both ways! I adore your distinctive natural colour but I also support change and experimentation and this blonde looks lovely on you!

Bijou

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Anchie, you look beautiful and always have, with whatever colour hair you choose to have. I like changing things up too and happily have my hair streaked blonde and find it blends my natural platinum highlights (what I prefer to call my grey hairs). I really like how the gold metal works with you skin tone.

nuancedream

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Anchie, you are stunning with the chic new hair color and specs. I am deeply sorry that you were the recipient of such hurtful comments. Whatever happened to, "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything."

Unfortunately, I know all too well about Graves disease and the havoc it can wreak on your body. Mine is currently in remission and has been so for nearly five years. I didn't suffer hair loss, which is common, but some of my hair became very fine and stick straight! My natural curly texture did eventually return. Once your thyroid hormone levels normalize, your hair will grow back. In the meantime, rock your new look to the max!

Sally

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I was actually quite envious of your lovely silver hair colour but you look gorgeous with the honey colour as well. Sometimes its just nice to have a change to brighten things up or change the mood.

anchie

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Thank you all for the support, especially appreciate support from all of you with gray hair. I didn’t want to sound like that I don’t like gray hair, which I really do, or that I think that people with gray hair look older, which to me is a nonsense, gray is just another color. But some people could just not see past the hair color and all that people associate with it. And unfortunately it did make me questioning myself, like do I really look like grandma to my daughter or like a mom of my 58 years old friend? Maybe it is not even about the hair and maybe I just look way older regardless? But I do remember that I stopped receiving male attention almost overnight when I first went gray, which was kind of relief in one way but it made me feel invisible also because change how people treated me was so abrupt.

nuancedream - thanks for sharing your story. How long it took before you went into remission? I know lot of people with thyroid issues but all of them are Hashimoto, it seems that Graves is much rarer? My father had Graves too, so it could be genetic also, but I am convinced that it was triggered by Covid in my case.

Minaminu

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Personally, I think you rocked with your natural hair colour but also look great with the temporary blonde! It's nice to make some changes and test different styles and I hope you'll have fun in discovering what works with the new colour and shorter hair!
I am sorry that you received unkind comments, really don't understand why people think it is OK to be so rude.

Star

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Anchie your natural hair was the main inspiration for me to grow out my natural hair in the hopes that it would be as beautiful as yours. While mine is a bit more on the silver side I have no regrets. I understand though your feelings. It is not for everyone and I know a lot of people don't approve. Funny thing is they are usually woman my age or older. You are lucky this new blonde hair suits you. I look completely sick with blonde hair. I think my skin tone is more cool than yours. Good idea to experiment with temporary dyes. I agree with Carla your natural hair is a statement. For me it is an amazing statement.

anchie

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Star - honestly I am already thinking about is it really going to wash out as promised or is it going to look just dirty because I want to have option to go back. But hopefully purple shampoo will sort it, it was anyway already looking little dirty after exposure to sun and chlorine, issue I have every summer.

Column

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Supporting you and all comments, especially related to health. Change is fun; why commit? Do what works for now...and tomorrow...and the next day. YLF!

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