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Can I poll the group on your thighs?

em

Mine rubs against each other, which is why I don't like to be bare-legged. I guess I thought most women were similar, but then I saw this swimsuit model. Do your thighs rub together, or are they separate like the Gottex lady? https://shop.nordstrom.com/s/p.....ss/4976994

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Angie

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Separate.

Have you tried gentle shapwear instead of hose for Summer skirts and dresses? That prevents the rub very effectively. I like to wear a version with flared skirts and dresses for insulation.

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binkle

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I'll gently suggest it doesn't matter what anyone's thighs do. Angie's pix are of an underwear model, posing in a specific fashion. Laughable (sorry Angie) that she is modelling spanx which she does not need.
Jockey slipshorts are non-restrictive panties, like bike shorts, but in a thin underwear material - comfort without squeezing.

Rant ahead:
For some reason, there's a "thing" on social media about "thigh gap" and how desirable it is. You'll find it hashtagged on instagram and twitter with a selfie of a thin woman posing like a three year old who has to weewee (I.e. toes pointed in awkwardly), to emphasize that she has thigh gap.

No offense to anyone who naturally has it at a healthy body weight, but it would seem to reflect how your bones are shaped and how wide your pelvis is. NOT A BIG DEAL.

Angie

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Binkle, are you laughing at the model or at me? I'm not sure!

YES to the Jockey slip shorts idea. They are great, and popular with forum members.

And "NOT A BIG DEAL" is dead right.

DonnaF

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Chubby thighs here. But no chub rub due to bowed legs.

Greyscale

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Thigh rub is normal! I'd guess that a total lack of thigh rub is somewhat uncommon. Just think of all the anti-chafing undergarments on the market, running shorts, Body Glide... clearly a big market. Many of my friends wear bike shorts under skirts for comfort.

And yes, it really is even more about pelvis and bone shape than weight! I have thought about this a lot because in Irish dance, I'm supposed to keep my legs crossed at the knee. It's harder for me than for some of the women because of how my bones all fit together, with a wider space between my thighs even though all my weight goes to my thighs. And one of my science colleagues actually did a study on how some people's bone angles naturally work better for ballet.

wendy

I had to check, because I've been losing weight and it is not something I was paying attention to. Anyways, yes, my thighs still touch.

But, in most of the pics you see where women have thigh gaps, it is because they are arching their backs and pushing their bootie out. I watched a video on how certain looks are created by changing your posture. This is one of them.

em

Thanks for everyone's answers!

Tina

Many where you see thigh gap are edited. Mine rub no matter what my weight. I found Thigh Society slip shorts this summer and actually wore dresses. I'm going to try the Jockey ones too.

Kate

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Separate. I’ve always had it, regardless of weight.

Joy

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I was never aware of thigh rub until long ago when DMIL asked me what I did for it. I had no idea what she was talking about. If one has problems with it the shapewear Angie suggests or the Jockey slip shorts seem the best remedy. DMIL used baby powder.

Runcarla

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What greyscale said. it is down to personal physiology and the nature of your activities/sports.

For your poll: separate, but not extremely so. I train fitness activities that strengthen and build muscle, including the inner thigh.

Ginger

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It's all about pelvis! I have very fluffy thighs, as all my WIW pictures in short shorts demonstrate, and they've always touched since I was 15 or even younger. But I didn't know what chaffing was until I googled it a few years ago. My hip bones are quite wide - I am a pear in bone structure, not just fluff - which must keep the touching from being actual rub.

I have heard that Angie's favorite Body Glide works for thigh rub as well as feet.

Leslie

My thighs rub. After getting tired of bright red rashes on my inner thighs, I have worn pantyhose with skirts and dresses since 6th grade. Even in humid Louisiana and Virginia summers. It beats the alternative, plus I like the "modesty."

I do not ever expect to have space between my thighs. 4'11", and even when I was thin, my thighs touched.

jussie

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umm also probably depends how far apart one puts ones legs when standing?? I have heard of people using Curash which is a type of non-chafe powder.
I have found shape wear to actually be uncomfortable and make me look bulgier than without.... HOWEVER support hose are quite comfortable, help the thighs glide and more flattering. Of course in high summer its gonna be too hot for support hose.....

Janet

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I agree with binkle!

That said, I relate to what Ginger wrote. I have thick thighs no matter what my weight, but I've never really had much trouble with my thighs rubbing because my hips are wide, and I tend to carry my weight on my low hip and outer thighs, i.e., saddlebags. I don't like wearing shapewear so I avoid it when possible, rubbing or not.

Echo

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I wear slip shorts - no compression, comfort and no thigh rub. Body glide or powder or other topical applications tend to wear off at the worst times, and that's never a concern with slip shorts. My thighs touched even when I was a size 2, and I imagine they always will. Not a biggie to have a gap or no gap, IMO; it's just the way you're built.

jacquez

I am a smallish plus-size (I can often, but not always, wear women's XL garments, 1x is usually where I fall but sometimes 2x). Furthermore, I have ex-rugby-player thighs -- I was a prop, which relies on thighs and core muscles, so my thighs are still quite muscular and large.

Standing normally, I've got a Venus of Willendorf thigh situation going on, is what I'm saying. If, like wendy says, I push out my butt and arch my back, I can make a thigh gap magically appear. Bodies are just peculiar.

Back when I wore skirts and dresses a lot, I had a great collection of pettipants to wear underneath. Comfy, lightweight, inexpensive, and smooth.

Suz

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I'm sure it's down to pelvis shape and femur angles. I have muscular thighs but I've never had a problem with thigh rub. As for whether there is a gap, that depends entirely on how I stand. If I stand with feet together, no. If I adjust myself a little bit, yes.

Jules

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Someone could have plenty of inner thing muscle and be very strong but still carry fat there that causes chub rub. Or maybe even have muscles shaped that way. Human variation is amazing. The strongest woman at my gym is not slim at all. Haven’t checked out her thigh gap, too busy cheering on her impressive weight lifting.
I have chub rub *and* a bony chest *and* something odd going on with my knees where I have sleep (in fetal position) with a pillow between them because there doesn’t seem to be enough fat or muscle to cushion, so they knock together uncomfortably.

Taffy

Rub, rub, rub! Even when I played college volleyball.

I always wear some kind of slip shorts with dresses. You put those on and forget about it. I love them.

Vildy

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I can't even imagine having a gap at the top of my thighs. My son, who is very large and has sensitive redhead skin, can get terrible chafing, just from his pants rubbing in humid weather. He found Body Glide just so-so and I'm sure I read here in another thread about Monistat anti-chafing gel. He relies on it. If he goes even one day forgetting to apply it, he's got a seriously painful problem. So I took my cue from that and I use it too, when needed. I also use it just under my breasts. And it works as a makeup primer, too. I use it on my upper lip so my lipstick, even with lip pencil, doesn't rise into a few lines I have.

ETA And son's pants are worn loose, too, so he can move in them at work.

em

Thanks again for the feedback. I am thin and petite and danced for a number of years and always had thighs that touched and frankly, never really thought anything of it until I started seeing pictures in catalogs and so forth. I mean, I don't see many (any) naked women, so really, how would I know? I've seen more naked men than women...but that's a topic for another day.

Gigi

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I am a very small person but have fuller thighs (I am an hourglass), so my thighs rub together. It doesn't normally cause any issues for me, thank goodness. I agree with the above comments, that whether you have a thigh gap or not is mostly dependent on your skeletal structure. I think it is sad that some young women feel bad about their bodies because they lack a thigh gap.

I did have a thigh gap one time in my life, and that was when I was extremely underweight from digestive problems. I looked somewhat emaciated. I am much happier with my full thighs!

Jules

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em, some of these images are also pretty clearly photoshopped to create the gap. It sometimes looks ridiculously fake. This is nothing against women who do have that shape, just bad photoshopping to meet some vicious cycle of what’s currently determined to be desirable

Synne

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I am tall and somewhat slender, and my thighs rub like crazy. I've actually had to reinforce the upper thigh-area on my jeans with extra fabric, because they rip and tear soo fast due to the friction.

Jane

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What ginger said. I have fluffy thighs and am pear shaped and haven’t had my thighs rub because I think they simply stick together!

Brooklyn

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Mine have been rub-a-dub-dubbing since I was 12. I remember because some people “kindly” pointed it out to me then. And they’ve always been that way despite weight fluctuations and (at times) some pretty serious weight training. I try not to worry about it. I suspect this physical characteristic is shared by a lot of women.

Cardiff girl

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If you are a normal body weight for your height then thigh rub is just part of the normal physical variations between people,don’t stress about it.lf it bothers you there are some good anti chafing balms out there and some excellent anti rub knickers.

carter

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Mine don't touch, but I have wide hips. My former MIL used to say I had hips meant for birthing lots of grand babies. She thought that was a good thing. I struggled with that a bit ;-).

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