Navel gaze alert - stop reading if you're not into a good overthink! This is sort about colour analysis but really it's about anything in our life where we overvalue others' opinions to the point where we stop listening to ourselves.

So I was going through my laptop to clear out some junk and I started reading through all the various and sundry colour analysis files I've collected and saved over the years. Me being me, this set me off on a spiral of "what IS my proper season anyway" and "why did this expert think this", etc. ... so after falling down that rabbithole for the millionth time (and not the last - let's be honest, I know myself ha!).

I pondered one very expensive analysis I had done with someone well-regarded as "the best" and she analyzed me as soft summer so maybe I should just accept it. (this was the one that was supposed to clear up all my confusion ... alas ...) But then I thought, well, she decided black was too harsh and gray was much better, and then I have light hazel eyes and a touch of warmth in my hair and so soft summer is correct - but the problem is, no matter how correct she might be, I think that bright blue makes my "soft" eyes really bright, I don't like when my hair turns warm as I feel very "muddy" (to be clear - warm hair is BEAUTIFUL. Just not on my head). Technically I "should" wear low contrast? But I personally think I look way better in higher contrasts. She recommended a warm pink lip but my favourite is a cooler plum. And so on.

Anyways, I've been over this with you all a million times - but my point today (I do have one - I think!!) is that I've been paying all this money and spending all this time trying to find someone else to give me permission to wear what I want. Not just supportive permission (after all, you lovely people are always supportive of my wanderings!!) but something that feels very official and backed up by a system; in other words, something where I don't have to risk being wrong. I want the stamp of approval and the gold star.

Well tough luck to me because that is not coming. I'm just going to have to own my choices and live with the consequences, whether it's the colours I wear, the styles I favour, the way I decorate and run my house, and the list goes on. I believe the technical term is "being an adult". *sigh* Was trying to avoid that one ...

If you survived this, thanks for reading and I'd love to hear your thoughts and whether you've ever been confronted with an area of your life where you've heretofore been refusing to put your big girl pants on and get on with it.

Image 1 - I keep hoping someone will tell me I'm actually "supposed" the be in something more like this palette (image credit to tealinspiration.com, a beautiful site for colour inspo btw), but ...
Image 2 - The expert told me these are closer to my correct colours ... zut alors ...