Hi Beth --
I feel your pain. It's why I've worn contacts the majority of my life! [But I'm not at the point where the multifocal are the best choice.]
Depending on what you do all day (lots of computer time?), keep in mind you may be wearing -- and people will be seeing you in -- glasses the vast majority of the day. So it's just like wearing glasses, sigh.
And it's the reason my readers are neutral shades -- on days when I wear a lot of color I didn't want to be (irrationally) irritated by having readers in some "fun" shade that doesn't really tie in.
I have both fairly inexpensive ($30) off-the-shelf ones from my optician and more expensive frames with custom Rx (to correct minor astigmatism) and fancy $$$ anti-glare coatings that are supposed to help eye health. I leave the latter at work. TBH the major difference is the coated ones smudge even more, grrr, so I hope they're doing something behind-the-scenes.
ANYWAY -- Since you're a non-glasses person, I might start with a pair of lower-end frames you feel good in, then think about upgrading, going with an Rx pair or multiple pairs etc. I personally think of my readers as a medical device vs accessory and don't go overboard with them.