Sending virtual commiseration drinks of choice to rachylou and lyn, two awesome women who deserve the best.

Ah. I was afraid this was what "it" was going to be. Stupid Boy!!

And Rachy! Bah! Gin and saltines all around!!

I will tell you that when I had my breakup last year, my fab closet and Looking Fab No Matter What absolutely saved me and gave me something to hang on to when everything seemed super bleak. So keep on looking fab because it really does help!

Big hugs! I'm here to tell you that you will survive!! XXX OOO

Oh, Lyn and Rachy - I'm so sorry. Be good to yourselves and know that something better is on the way. It may take a while, but you will be ok.

Lyn*, I'm so, so sorry you're hurt, I feel for you. Time will heal you and open you up to better possibilities... meanwhile, yes, keep looking fab. Hugs to you!

I'm sorry about this Lyn*. Nothing makes you feel sadder than being blind-sided and ambushed. My friends and I have long thought, however, that there is a worse situation that being without a good man, and that's being with the WRONG man. This man was wrong for you. Better to find that out now, than even further down the road when the stakes are higher and the damage more severe. Mr. (Dr.?) Right is out there and he'll be thrilled when you find each other. FWIW, I didn't find Mr. Right until I was 42.

Lyn*, I'm so sorry you got blindsided.

But yes, the right MAN will love and admire everything that's important to you.

In the meantime, so glad you have fab FFBOs! And the wise and witty rachy to commiserate with. And support from those of us who've lived through relationship pain and loss then found so much better matches for who we really are.

That just sucks! So sorry Lyn

So sorry, Lyn. It's tough when a disappointment is raw. You are wise, kind and fab. My mother would say "this will pass". It aggravated me in the moment, though she was right over time. All good thoughts your way.

I am so, so sorry *Lyn!!

And remmeber, it's not you, its him. Stupid boy.

((Lyn)). Yes you do look fab and you are so fab. Sending a hug!

I'm sending a hug too, Lyn! I'm sorry, I had hoped I was wrong reading your hints.

Ugh! So hard when you're blindsided. It is his loss. But maybe this was just the warm up act, and the Real Deal/Mr. or Dr. Right is just around the corner? Hope so. Be good to yourself.

OH NO. I'm sorry, Lyn. Soooooo hard. (((HUGS)))). xo

(((Hugs))) there's no way round the fact it hurts. I'm 6 months into my breakup and it still hurts, though of varying degrees day to day. MaryK gave me a pearl of wisdom "the only way out is through" and I cling to this saying when I'm having a sad day. A word of advice James Blunt and old photos will not help, not ever!! Stay strong and spend time with friends and family to help shore you up x

I will say "poor you" but really I am thinking "poor him" because from even the little I know of you from the forum, you are clearly smart and super-cute and a total keeper and therefore his loss So sucky how it happened though, and sorry that you have to go through it ... take good care

I'm so sorry. I hope you can arrange things so that your paths don't cross at work.

Ugh...

Also can I say people can really can be really intolerant of working in healthcare. I have nowhere near the hours of a resident but people say I work too much because of call.
Your are fabulous.

Thanks ladies for all your collective wisdom and love - I am feeling a lot better today; I am keeping busy at work and enjoying the company of those I work with. I think I understand some of my patients' pain more too - I hadn't been in a relationship for a long time so I was starting to be out of touch with that aspect of things.

Moving onwards ... and through

So sorry to hear this, take care.

Big hugs to you Lyn. Glad to hear that the company you are keeping is boosting your spirits a bit.

And rachylou, sorry to hear that too!

Ugh. So sorry to hear that. I'm with those who say it's definitely his loss, though!

So sorry Lyn (and Rachy)! Breakups are so hard. The boy is an fool to give you up. Someone else (next time, hopefully a Man and your true Mr. Right!) will be thanking their lucky stars that you're available! It's so not your fault, don't get down on yourself for a nanosecond! Anyone who would break up with someone for their schedule, especially someone so smart and hardworking (and super stylish to boot!), is a total idiot and doesn't deserve you.

(I sheepishly have to admit I am relieved that the news was *only* about the boy...when you mentioned a few days ago you were waiting for some bad news I was scared you had some sort of medical condition! I guess I'm just a worrywart--it must be the field I'm in. I'm glad you're healthy!)

Lots of hugs Lyn! Rock on--onward and upward!!!

I am back to say that I agree with Goldenpig, I was also worried about the possibility of your being waiting for biopsy results, I was relieved that this was not health related.
Good things will come your way.

So sorry Lyn* .... Looking fab is a great way to move onward. (Commiserations for Rachy too)

Lyn,
I'm so sorry that you are going this. I know you have heard it said many times, but it really is him not you and you will get through it. With every relationship you learn about what you want, your needs and how to give of yourself in a healthy positive way. If you must analyze this break up then do so from that perspective. It breaks my heart to hear you say, "what is wrong with me" because the answer is NOTHING.

Looking FAB and getting out there is the best "revenge" I know of. You look beautiful and your recent WIW's show an incredibly, elegant woman who is clearly coming into her own.

Stand tall and be proud of the strong woman that you are.
Big Hug,
Jen

Lyn, I had been muttering 'please not that!' the last few days. But you will survive and you will be happy again. In the meantime, around of whatever's your poison and another of rachy's. And big drunken hugs all round too. After which we can go find the baseball bats to mob up, yes?

Seriously, though, don't forget the good times when the rawness of this loss is laid to rest. Remember that feeling and know that you will have that and MORE when the right person crosses your path finally. Till then, game face on! And twirl!

Much love, Lyn! (Rachy, too, strong as you are)

Sorry to hear this. Hugs and keep looking fabulous!

I'm sorry to hear this, lyn! I was enjoying your updates and adventures.

Onward and through, as you have said, knowing that one day the right man and the right situation will present itself and you will say to yourself "So this is why it didn't work out with the boy...."

Take care!

I am so sorry to hear this. Big virtual hugs. You will get through this. You ARE a wonderful person through and through. You did not do anything wrong. You are fab.