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WIW: To help a sick friend

catgirl

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My friend is in town with her husband who needs surgery - he has a terminal liver disease and the whole thing is incredibly stressful. Anyhow, she got a moment of relief by picking my outfit today. She always complains that we don't wear the same size shoe so she can't steal my boots. She went with the electric blue booties.

Does this work? I'm not sure it matters, since it made her happy. Please keep your fingers crossed for her husband. He is waiting to get on the transplant list and could really use all the power of YLF positive thinking.

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MsMary

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Sending all my very best transplant list vibes to your friend and her hubby!

You look amazing!! I am a matchy matchy girl so you know I love this. Would love to see a long necklace with it.

catgirl

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Ooh, good idea - they had to leave for the hospital before we got to jewelry, though she borrowed my "good luck" earrings and a scarf!

christieanne

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Very happy to send vibes and good thoughts for your friend. Sounds very stressful for them.

I love the blue and black - it is more matchy than normal for you but it works. That sweater is a nice easy silhouette to wear - love that.

catgirl

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Thanks, Christieanne. Yes, my friend is more matchy than me for sure. It was interesting to see someone else create an outfit for me from my own closet.

Anonymous

I'm sending lots of good thoughts to your friend and her husband, Una. Waiting for a transplant must be so stressful.

My goodness, I love those electric blue shoes!

ironkurtin

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You're sweet to give a friend some welcome distraction! What a lovely form of good karma.

Transcona Shannon

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I love that you let your friend pick your outfit today - I'm sure she appreciated it more than you know! And I think she did great - I personally love the blue booties with this.

I'm sending all sorts of good vibes to your friend and her husband Una - I sure hope he hears about a transplant ASAP.

ManidipaM

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It's a different look to your usual, Una, but I have to say you look great. Even stressed out, your friend has a good eye. Wishing her and her husband all the good luck I can command, wish or pray for. Can't imagine how difficult a time this must be...

Kiwichik

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My fingers are crossed & your friend has great taste - love the outfit - that blue looks perfect on you.

catgirl

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Thanks, ladies. The saddest thing is that he can't even get ON the transplant list until he is really sick - so it's against all instincts to hope he's at that point, but at the same time, the risk of side effects like cancer gets worse the longer he has to wait to get on the list.

I added a long multi-chain UWP necklace to this per MaryK's suggestion... I love looking down and seeing the flash of blue booties.

rae

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Aw, I love this on many levels... your friend has the bookending gene! An UWP chain totally pulls it all together.

Fingers and toes crossed for a good transplant outcome. I just can't imagine that kind of stress... hugs to everyone as well.

Victoria

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so sorry to hear about your friend's hubby:(. Your outfits is pretty awesome though, I love the royal blue color on you and the boots look fantastic together!

Chrizzle

Sending out some agnostic prayers for the best possible outcome for your friend's husband.

You look great, and I love how even though this is matchier than we usually see on you, it still looks like *you*. The UWP necklace sounds like the perfect addition to make it even more so. I'd love to see a pic.

Sarah A

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the outfit is quite fun with the blue shoes. i hope the best for your friend and her husband.

Kate

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Sending out good vibes to your friend's husband, Una.

You look great, even though it's not your usual style groove. It's always interesting to shake things up a bit. Those blue booties are totally fab. And it was very lovely of you to allow your friend the distraction of doing something girly and fun and far removed from hospitals and health fears.

Jonesy

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What a sad situation, and how sweet of you to let your friend pick out your outfit. I think you look fab, and it's great that those electric blue booties are getting some action :).

Traci

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I know its a long shot, but maybe helpful. A friend of mine recently went through the same thing with her husband needing a transplant. They waited for a liver here in WI for many many months. Eventually they moved down to New Orleans to get him on the transplant list there and he had a liver w/i the month. Apparently the systems vary by location and some states have an abundance of available organs while others have people dying on the lists. If he can't get a liver in AK, it may be worth them looking at relocating temporarily.

Aida

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Aw Una you are so sweet! Your friend did a lovely job with this outfit, and really like the idea of a long metal/sparkly pendant so I'm glad you added that. Sending your friend and her family all the best wishes and vibes I can!

Beth Ann

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Beautiful color,Una! Your friend is fortunate to have people like you in her life, giving her a place to stay and lifting her spirits.

Sveta

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You are a good friend, Una. I am sending good wishes and vibes to your friend and her husband!
I like your outfit and don't mind a bit of matchy-matchy here Fantastic booties!

Deborah

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Praying for your friend. What an awful situation for him to be dealing with.

Una, I like this outfit. Very streamlined and I like a bit of machy matchy. While a little different for you I think you can carry it off. Did you feel good in this?

goldenpig

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Wishing the best for your friend and her sick husband. Walking that fine line between too well to get on the list vs. sick enough to qualify/get priority vs. too sick to survive the wait is really really tough on the patients and their families. I hope things work out for the best and that he gets on the list and gets a liver soon!

That is a cool outfit--bookending with electric blue! Fab blue boots! I always love you in saturated bright jewel tones! And what a neat idea to let your friend pick an outfit for you! I would love to try that sometime, but I don't think my friends are into fashion. Maybe I'll have to ask you all for suggestions!

Jaime

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What a stressful situation to be in, including the irony for hoping for his condition to get worse. You are a wonderful friend to distract your friend this way, and you look pretty darn good to boot.

cheryl

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Sending good thoughts and prayers to all of you.

She did a fantastic job. I love the the sweater and booties. You look great.

Meredith1953

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She picked well! You look lovely in this outfit and I'm glad it made your friend smile. My best vibes are being sent your way and I sincerely hope he gets a liver donor.

catgirl

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Thanks so much, ladies. Here is the update: he is feeling better with a stent in to drain bile build-up, but they are sending him to Seattle to be evaluated for getting on the transplant list. Alaska does not have the medical facilities for liver transplants, so they will have to relocate somewhere, most likely Seattle. Traci, they are looking into exactly what you've said as far as the lists and statistics.

GP, you've hit the nail on the head. I don't really understand how they triage the people who are in need, but there's that fine line between not sick enough and too sick, and the particular disease he has is so rare they don't even know how it plays out. They just did a biopsy to see if he has cancer which would mean he could not get a transplant.

It's just a bad situation all around, because my friend is also disabled with dystonia. They have a 15 year old daughter who's like a niece to me, and a son in college. Anyway, they are here with me though next week. Tomorrow we're all dressing up for the court award cerremony, which will be a fun distraction - my friend said she wants it to be a day of fun for her daughter before they get into the hard stuff...

I've never really believed before in the whole idea of people "sending good vibes" (though I try to do it for others) - but this forum truly gives me so much comfort and hope. Thank you!

Sona

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AG: just read your update. transplant medicine remians one of the murkiest areas in US medicine: partly in fact due to the amount of stakeholders ( patients,surgeons, hospitals, organ allocation organizations, etc). My husband's main area of research is tranpslant related care and he is the senior scientific officer for the registry that montiors data on all transplants in the US trying to make the process more transparent and fair. Anyway, we talk about this a lot and are both very passionate about it. Our hearts and best wishes are with your friend and family especially her husband. "Good vibes" do do good and hoping for the best! Meanwhile enjoy the court award ceremony!

Sona

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P.S: your friend picked a cute outfit! and you were awesome to let her!!

Mona

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Best wishes to your friend and her husband! She is lucky to have such a supportive friend like you.

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