People don’t get, generally, that compliments can make people uncomfortable? That’s come up on the forum before, so I’m not going to address it.
Kkards, thanks for that. I think sock boots are weird and ugly. When people post about wanting them, I don’t reply that it is strange to wish for such a thing; I assume that an appropriate response would be predicated on agreement that sock boots are a good thing. So I nod and move on quietly. I also don’t say much about posts where people don’t want their big boobs to be prominent, because that is an issue that is clearly not familiar to me. I really don’t see how/why people find it necessary to keep repeating that they disagree with me on this/can’t relate instead of ignoring and moving on as you said. I do ask lots of questions. I try to formulate good, thought-provoking questions that are not simply “how can you not agree with my feelings on stupid, ugly sock boots?” I will have to use this thread as a reminder that the world doesn’t owe me explanations, that after I’ve asked once or maybe twice, if I still don’t get it, then it’s time to shrug and move on.
He brought this up again yesterday when I was rejected for a job: “but you’re smarter than they are”. That time it was easy to point out that brains clearly aren’t the only thing that matters, and I haven’t been doing what I need to for a while, am working back and will then be awesome. So we are getting there.