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You know your wardrobe is too large when....ETA Found!

unfrumped

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... you lose something entirely.

I cannot for the life of me locate a top I bought just a few weeks ago.

I have looked for all the usual culprits such as slithering off hanger, hanging up on another hanger, double-hanging, foot of the bed fallout, laundry bin toss (was not planning to machine wash), sent to holding zone by mistake, everything. Haven't traveled, so not left in suitcase. Have wracked my brain to think if I did anything unusual like put it in a sack to take shopping for tryon. And I haven't had any unusual party activities! (Well, not that I can remember, anyway!)

Have not had time to just haul everything out, so will do that this weekend as part of closet edit. But it's driving me crazy and of course, I had some fall outfits planned around it. And I feel guilty as heck, that something could just go missing, as if I've been the bad shepherd.

Has this happened to you? Or something similar or worse?

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shedev

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It used to happen to me when my wardrobe was larger. I also used to buy a lot of versions of the same thing because I had so much. I hope your top turns up.

Ankita

(website)

Uh oh... that's not a good feeling and I know it from experience...a LOT of experience
I've had things go missing many a times and it's usually because I have very little storage space and more stuff than I could ever need....so things get mixed up and temporarily disappear in my cupboard jungle.
Other than that I've lost a few very precious,close to my heart items... and I know that I didn't just leave them behind somewhere, they were whacked... but then nothing I could do really about that...hmphhh.
I really hope you find your top and can put together all the outfits you'd planned...keep looking!

Jenn

(website)

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I have a smallish wardrobe that only fills half my allotted closet space, and this still happens to me occasionally, so don't beat yourself up too much. I usually find things someplace I already checked or mixed in with husband/son's clothes.

Elly

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You know what is worse? When this happens and you have a very small wardrobe-- you are doubly out of luck and the only explanation must be that you are loosing your mind. #Ellyproblems

Anonymous

Yes! Long underwear tops and camisoles that I've removed after my walk and shoved in drawers when the doorbell rings.

Clothing that I'm trying on in the room with the mirror that's better than the my bedroom but not being used otherwise.

Same with the downstairs closet. I'll be trying on something that just arrived by post and if someone shows up unexpectedly I tear it off and fling it in the downstairs closet. Which also has a better mirror

Anonymous

Oh heavens, YES! Usually it's something I later remember I gave away. So I'm left with the double whammy of missing an item and worrying about age-related memory loss.

Sara L.

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Yes, it's so frustrating to lose something. I currently can't find a running skirt. I know I wouldn't have gotten rid of it - it was in perfectly fine condition. I've looked everywhere I can think of and it hasn't turned up. I'm planning on emptying and tidying all my drawers when I switch my summer and fall clothes in a few weeks and I'm hoping maybe I'll find in then (although I've looked in said drawers already).

Anonymous

Oh, yes, been there, done that!

Anonymous

Maddening, isn't it? Are there teenage girls in the house?

Anonymous

Yep - in my case it is almost always in the laundry hamper or the dry cleaning bag.

Diana

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Hehe, this happens to me a lot too. In my case, it's not really a case of my wardrobe being too large (although it is large, I don't think it's too large...) but more a case of my actual physical closet being too small and poorly laid out. My closet is small, deep, and dark (typical of an old New England building) and multilayered (I have shelves and baskets on the floor under the hanging bar) so sometimes something will fall off a hanger into the laundry basket, or into a basket of socks, or behind a shelf.

I'm also an "out of sight, out of mind" type of person, so more often than not I'll forget I even have the item (unless it's a particular favorite) and only remember when it turns up in some weird place 3 months later!

Janet

(website)

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The only times I've had this happen, it has turned out that 1) it was an item that got folded with the laundry and put away in my husband's stuff, 2) it was something like a top or tee and it got put away in my pajama drawer because it was folded in between some pajama tops, 3) one of my stepsons WORE it! (yeah, it's kind of weird, but one day my 6'5" stepson walked into the kitchen wearing MY jeans, and what's weirder is that they fit!). I think one time something fell behind my bureau too, but I realized it pretty quickly.

My niece has a problem with things disappearing because her cat likes to carry things around her apartment and hide them.

Alassë

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LOL, Janet!

Dee

Veteran

When this happens to me, it's usually because it somehow ended up with my husbands shirts after laundry day and put into his dresser, which has no organizational structure whatsoever. So he looks through four separate drawers full of shirts/pants/who-knows-what-else and gives it back to me.

Or (sometimes) I never pulled it out of the bag I carried it home in...

unfrumped

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Oh good- y'all are giving me hope that there is a logical explanation and not insanity.

Runcarla

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Yeah - my sports stuff ends up in my kid's drawers. Black lycra shorts, fleece, and race t-shirts are hard to differentiate. Socks can be problematic at times too.

Janet

(website)

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Carla, LOL, yes -- socks! My husband has on more than one occasion started to pull on a pair of socks only to have them reach halfway up his foot, and then say, "Uh, I think these are yours."

carter

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I am so stealing Diana's reasoning...my wardrobe's not too large. My closet's too small!

Actually I haven't lost anything in my wardrobe, but I'm incredibly OCD about my closet. However, my teenage son manages to completely lose 4-5 pair of pants/year. Like gone. Not in the house. What the heck are you doing with your pants, son?

cheryle (Dianthus)

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I have indeed had that experience. Searching through shelves and drawers for an elusive item. Sometimes it turns up but by then, it has often been replaced.

Elly

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My brother is 6'3" and has worn my pants in public before realizing they were mine.

Deborah

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I hope you find it! I have my moderate sized wardrobe ordered very specifically, so if I can't find something it usually means I have absentmindedly hung it in the wrong spot! It sends me into a bit of a panic

Janet

(website)

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Carter, OMG, I so know what you mean about the boys losing their clothes. I mean, how?? Right? My husband habitually leaves things in hotel rooms. At least when we travel together, I'm there to make a final check before we leave -- I always find something he left behind!

Marlene

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Arg! So frustrating. I find things get lost when they somehow get "stuck" to another piece of clothing during the laundry cycle. My other issue is my husband cannot tell the difference between my clothes and my daughter's clothes. (she is 12...I am 51 and have a few pounds on her so... WHAT?). After he does the laundry, we have to spend a couple days handing each other our clothes back!

Suz

(website)

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Oh so frustrating!!

I don't have a huge wardrobe but this still happens. Often with socks and undies that disappear into the vortex of the dryer never to be seen again --- unless I find them in my daughter's drawer a year later, that is.

It also sometimes happens with newly purchased items that I haven't had time to put away. I put the bag somewhere in the closet and then forget where I put it, and sometimes my husband moves it, or -- worse -- tosses it! That last thing only happened once, I think, and luckily we got it before it ended up donated.

Sheesh!!

I hope you find your new top!

unfrumped

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I will have to be more systematic, as it must have ended up somewhere that's more unusual for me and so I'm not looking in the right places, I think!

Staysfit

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Oh! I recognize this! Yes! It hasn't happened since my closet has been cleared out and redone, but, I did recently leave a necklace in my purse. I must have mindlessly dropped it in there when I was at my Pilates session and then forgot. I spent a good hour hunting for it before I opened my purse to get my cell phone and the necklace was draped around my sunglasses case.

I hope you find your new top! Usually my misplaced items turn up when I stop looking.

Gail

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I am sorry to say that's has happened to me many times. I am also guilty of buying something and forgetting that I bought it , ugh.

dakotacheryl

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Yes this has happen to me too...I have a Christmas present that I bought early in the shopping season for my sister in law...probably 10 years ago...never to be found again.

Currently I am missing a pair of summer work wear cropped black pants that I LOVE...missing...dry cleaner swears they don't have them.

Also, a brand new tube of MAC lipstick in my favorite color. I have looked in all purses, under the seats in my car, jacket pockets...nothing...sigh...

viva

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I have been searching for a lost pair of black lace boyshorts for six months. I have asked (grilled) both of my daughters and have searched high and low. I do not have a large wardrobe -- so that's not the only culprit. But it has been driving me crazy! They were a fairly new pair and a new style and I loved them and one day -- poof! -- they were gone.

But then, yesterday, I was going through the box of things I had put away for the winter, and there, clinging to a pair of tights, were those boyshorts!!!!! HAPPY DANCE!

I just hate losing things, period. It's like my whole world is out of balance.

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