Thankyou so much, your responses helped a lot! I appreciated every response you each gave so generously and it was great constructive criticism. Where else but YLF could I inflict my dithering and be not only indulged but supported and schooled?
What was the best thing to come out of it is that my ambivalence was your ambivalence (collectively).
This coat is definitely not my usual silhouette, yet I was surprised that I liked it. Those of you who liked it and encouraged me to buy it, thankyou - Taylor, Deborah, Sarah, Shannon, San & MissVee - you affirm that I wasn't crazy and helped articulate why it was to my taste - confirming it's retro cred, class and unique appeal. Thankyou for giving me confidence that I can evolve my style through wearing this style xx. Shannon, I'm glad you weighed in - I thought of you when I saw myself in this!
Thankyou very much Natalie, San and Kate for the encouragement to wear yellow. I see it as another colour that is a bit out of my comfort zone, but I think my new(ish) glasses really pick up on it in a good way and I love the contrast with my hair. I am determined to pick up a yellow coat and you have added fuel to the fire :).
Claire, Kate and Natalie, you raised great points about what flatters my figure and works with my preferred silhouettes. You are wise, and if I was only going to get one coat that fit into my dream minimalist wardrobe, it wouldn't be this. And I do have a big picture goal about a coherent, consolidated wardrobe, so I very much appreciate being reminded of this xx.
After all that...I went back to look for it and it was gone! As I entered the shop I had a feeling that if it was gone it would be a relief, uncomplicating my life. But once I knew I couldn't have it, it was the old grass is greener thing; I kept thinking, damn, some dealer grabbed it, or someone more savvy than me who didn't have a well-meaning friend with slightly different taste influencing her (I once missed out on a frosted pink art deco cake stand after asking this friend her opinion of it).
Ah well. The world is awash with clothes and there will be other baubles to pursue, catch, and hopefully shine in! xoxoxo