Next up is wedding #2 in Newport, R.I. We will substitute for the bride's deceased parents. DH was 17 1/2 when his folks adopted her, and soon left for college. She's a talented woman and we have been supportive of her through difficult times. Several family members will make the trip, but others frown on SS marriage.

She's a fashion designer. I'm sure she's at Fashion Week right now. I would like to wear something a bit fashion forward. She's asked us to wear black and DH (who will escort her down the aisle) to wear his tux. I've ordered and returned several dresses, looked through store racks and am not happy so far. Now I'm tired and don't want to do more shopping, so it is coming down to two choices: A Tadashi Shoji pin tucked dress that just arrived, or the dress I wore to last year's wedding.

Did I mention none of us are getting younger? I get more egg-shaped and despite lots of exercises my arms aren't in the Jane Fonda league. I do occasionally frequent the "I'll Wear What I Want!" website to get inspired. As you saw with my green dress for last wedding, I'm not afraid of above the knee, but with hose.

With either of these dresses I will have to wear my taller Paul Green sandals, the ones that gave me horrible blisters last year. I will be prepared this year. I have a little sheer cardi if it is chilly, or else a cute black jacket I can wear.

New dress issues--fits really well and is just right with PG sandals, but sheer from an inch above my finger tips to knees. I have a black silk slip that is too short to hid the sheerness, I have black DKNY body shaper that is too long and would show. I could wear black long Spanx or leggings to below the knee, or just let my legs show through. Nee your thoughts. I was raised to be a fairly modest dresser.

I was concerned about black bra straps showing through lace until I looked about SIL's dress below.

I can't zip it up all the way myself. Forgive no makeup and unwashed hair (but you can see how the gray is growing out. 4 months since last highlighting and will do no more.)

Photos 1-2: 2014 dress front and back. Wore wrong bra and discovered that too late. Would remember this time.

3: Tadashi dress from Nordstrom now out of stock unless I return it.

Next few photos me in dress front, back, sides with and without DKNY body shaper.

Last three: SIL at son's wedding: with me, dancing with her mom, and her expensive Sergio Rossi shoes. As you can see, she is fun-loving and flamboyant.

Need advice--which one?
Is there too much blush in 2014?