I am up too early for some reason and found myself revisiting this discussion. I like Sal’s thought exercise of going through the current wardrobe with this question in mind. I may try that after this cup of coffee. Not with the goal of ditching stuff right now, because I did recently do an edit and we’re in a transitional season, but to look at the whys and whens.
I’m an emotional shopper and am emotional dresser. In the past I have also varied widely in body-dressing mood from one week to another — for instance I would feel fairly body confident one week and wear more fitted styles and then have a period where I felt more comfortable covering up. It occurs to me that more recently I am feeling increasingly over any bodycon styles, but that may also be because I’m a little larger now than I feel most comfortable. Is this emotional shift permanent, now that I’m “of a certain age,” or might it shift again if I drop 7 lbs, which has happened in the past? So, for example, right now I would not buy the fitted midi dress that I wore a lot 2-3 years ago, but I’m not sure I’m ready to give it up. It’s in the holding zone, with several other pieces that I feel similarly about. So mood and size fluctuations definitely come into play.
I can relate to the falling in and out and in love again with an item or style thing too. I have three pairs of cowboy boots that have seen almost no wear in the past few years, when I wore them a ton 5-10 years ago. They kind of got pushed aside in the era of ankle booties which are easier to style and less specific — I know a lot of people think it’s weird to wear cowboy boots if you’re not in that ranching/cowboy world (which oddly enough, I am sometimes, but I don’t wear those boots on the ranch — I wear muck boots there!). Truth is, the cowboy boots were a good match for the bit of rocker vibe I enjoy, which I seem to get more now from other styles. And at the moment, I can’t say I would choose to buy cowboy boots. However, they are 1) nicely broken in and comfortable, 2) sort of classic in a rather specific way, 3) styles that I carefully chose and/or stalked for a year because I loved them. Shoes are harder to let go of for me when they are still comfortable. And I know that as soon as I let them go, they’re gonna trend. LOL.