Joy, you look absolutely sensational in both renditions. I can't tell you which one I love more!! What Sveta, Sarah, and Angie said -- and then some.
As for your friend, I think it is so sad that she has lost her spark and seems to need to bring you down as well. I am sure it is not intentional, but I can easily imagine that it would be dispiriting. And also -- painful for you, because you are such a lady and so inherently gracious, it must hurt to think that simply be trying to enjoy life a little bit yourself, you might unwittingly make her uncomfortable.
But it's not you doing it -- it is her own feelings. I hope she will be able to see and feel that.