My style has changed recently to incorporate more of the elements that you listed: bows, ruffles, circle skirts, etc. I don't personally use the word "twee" because I don't really know how to use it. I know what it means, but I have no working sense of the connotation of it.
I am a very petite person and have very youthful features, so I have to be careful with how many of these types of items I incorporate at once. I have better luck if I combine one such element (like a Peter Pan collar) with a simple, modern item (like a sheath dress). It allows me to have the uber-feminine styling without going overboard, at least to my eye.
I know that it can be difficult to feel like your style is not accepted when you have a different sense of fashion. My personal style is quite different from others' on the forum, but I have found that as I continue to experiment and hone my style, I become happier and happier with it and more content to be myself. It does take a while, though...I have been playing with fashion for a couple of years now. I think your fashion self-acceptance will grow as you continue on.
I hope to see more of you on the forum.