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When do women feel their most beautiful?

Maya

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I happened upon this article today.

http://www.ivillage.com/what-a.....f=obinsite

I haven't quite reached that age yet so I can't comment on whether or not it rings true for me, but I thought it was interesting.

Completely OT, but the real reason I clicked on that is because JLH's hair appears to be what my natural texture is now...except hers is all pretty and "done" and mine is a bit of a fuzzball (though it's looking better than before). Amazing how you can just wake up with curly hair one day...

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Rosie

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Well, her hair looks gorgeous!!

31...hmm...I think I felt pretty good at 31, but it doesn't stand out as being special. I do think I feel more beautiful now than in my 20's, but I can't remember!

Laura

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I peaked at 34! Honestly I have thought about this in the past and that was the top for me.

p.s. Don't you think shifting hormones have a lot to do with hair??

Claudia

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Yes! I think my early and mid-thirties were my peak as well.

I had my children in my mid-twenties, so those changes were well behind me during my 30's.

Interesting!

shana

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Most beautiful - I would have to say mid to late twenties. By my mid-twenties, my body had filled out (I was a skinny, gawky teen), I had finished college, had a great job, was in lurve!!! I definitely felt very beautiful. My 30's so far have all been about children - being pregnant, nursing, gaining weight, losing weight, getting used to a new body. I haven't quite hit my stride just yet. I did feel very beautiful when I was pregnant too!

medusa

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Hmmm. I probably feel more beautiful now than I have before, mainly because I have more confidence and style, thanks to this site. I'm 37.

agrace

I actually quite agree with the article. I'm 32 now but right around 30 is when I came into my own I feel. I think the early 30's have been great so far - I would not go back to my early 20's but I would also not mind staying *right* here!

As an aside, I simply do not buy that Jennifer Love Hewitt is 31. She has been around for decades. Maybe I'm wrong but I think she is older than that, not because she looks it but I can't remember a time when she wasn't in the media. Is she really only 31?

Maya

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She looks about late 20's early 30's and she started acting when she was only 16, so I didn't think twice about it.

agrace

I guess that is it then - she's just been in my consciousness for as long as I can remember and whenever that is the case, I just assume the actress/ actor is older. Or, maybe it has something to do with the character I first see them portray - I think she was in My So Called Life and portrayed a slightly older character so I just thought she was older than me.

But back to the point - I do love my thirties so far.

Maya

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I don't think she was in MSCL was she? I'd hate to think of her sharing screen space with Jared Leto!

Although I also hate thinking of Claire Danes doing the same, and yet here we are.

agrace

Oh yes - it was 'Party of Five' that also had Matthew Fox, or really, Jack from Lost. Even though Lost didn't exist back then, that was his destiny. snicker.

Maya, I am going to get Jared Leto on this forum! Would you like that?

ps. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jennifer_Love_Hewitt is her wikepedia page. Looking at that picture, I would not have guessed her to be 31. I really thought she was older. I know I am way off topic here, but I sometimes I just don't trust Hollywood.

Maya

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Yes, she was in Po5.

I was just talking about Jared today with one of my friends. Inge sent me a link a while back on Go Fug Yourself where he has blonde hair and it looks awful, and we (as in my friend and I) agreed he's trying too hard to be a teen idol to promote his band. The real problem is that he's nearly 40 years old. A little late to the party, if you ask me.

Now, OTOH, being an idol to gals in their late 20s is understandable :p

I'm on strike until he goes back to brown hair. I don't know what exactly I'm on strike from, but whatever it is will not resume until I see a thick glossy mop of brown hair on that head! Then you can feel free to invite him, but give me some notice so I can pretty up!

agrace

Hard to believe he is almost 40. I think the men in Hollywood tell the truth about their ages, so I believe it. He doesn't look 40 to me. Blonde = no good. I'll give you a few days heads up before I get him posting here though you don't need to pretty up, Maya - you are pretty already

Lisa

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Interesting article, but if I am most beautiful in my 30's what am I the rest of my lifetime? I think you grow appreciation and acceptance as you age, which in turn results in more confidence, and confidence is beautiful to me.

Angie

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I feel my most beautiful right now at 40.

Sveta

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Angie, I am with you on this one! I have not even felt that confident in myself until my mid-thirties and it just feels better and better after that. I wonder if real beauty is not in the physical features really but rather in your comfort with your own body and knowledge of what suits it and also in acceptance of it.
Anyway, I hope this feeling will last for another 30 years for me

Katja

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I just keep getting better (I'm 50).

Anonymous

First, I've never been a beauty. I felt the most beautiful when I was engaged. It seems to be true of many average girls... that they blossom and glow when feeling loved so much when someone has committed himself to her, wants her to be his wife and share the rest of his life. What could give more confidence than that? Being in a relationship is not the same level of joy.
Being pregnant is a special time but not one in which I felt beautiful. It can be uncomfortable, feeling great fatigue, etc. I was in my early 30's with babies and certainly not feeling fab.
Because of this site and weight loss, I feel prettier than I have for many years. Confidence is a huge factor, as well as excepting the body one is given and learning to accentuate the good.

Maya

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Hmm, I don't think I will ever feel "beautiful," but before everyone pours out their well intentioned but misplaced compassion, read on:

I tend to talk about my appearance in a very cold-hard-facts kind of way, and most women tend to misinterpret my statements. I was ugly when I was a tween/teen. I just was. It's not really up for debate, unless you consider bushy eyebrows, acne, and a bad haircut attractive. I'm not being self deprecating, just saying it like it is. There is no question to me that some women luck out better in the genetic lottery than others, and my luck was pretty bad at that time.

What I could never stand was people insincerely telling me how "beautiful" I was. That just made me feel worse because I knew it wasn't true, and no, I wasn't just in denial or had self esteem problems or couldn't see what they saw, etc. I just knew I wasn't beautiful, and it would have been so much more helpful to hear that it just didn't matter, rather than hearing a lie. I would have rather heard "ok, so you're not beautiful, but beauty isn't everything" or something along those lines. Some people did mean it in all fairness, but they were the sort of people that think everyone is is a unique and beautiful snowflake...a philosophy that I like in theory but it just doesn't pan out in the real world for me.

As a result I think I will always cringe when I hear that word, even when people mean it and have good intentions. I guess I am a mutant of some sort. Most women love being called beautiful and sexy, and I wince at both! I know everyone keeps saying I'll feel better about those words when I'm older and more confident, but those people also told me a lot of things would happen once I'm in my 20's, and none of them ever did. I rarely if ever fit the mold.

Katja

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I'm not beautiful, either. I had to translate "feeling beautiful" to "liking myself" in order to even reply. It doesn't matter if I'm beautiful or not if I really like and feel good about myself.

MsMaven

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I felt I was at my prime in my 40s. I did have some rough times with what my doctor called "the last roundup", but I got through it. I'm pretty sure I got hit on more in my 40s, but maybe that was because I no longer hauled kids around with me.

In my 30s I was still trying to hard to fit into a mold that wasn't me. Lots of anxiety and then that Dress for Success look that often felt like a strait-jacket.

For all I know the best is yet to come.

Kristine

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I felt beautiful in my 20s, hit an awkward patch in my younger 30s and feel beautiful again at 38. I think my 40s will be even better now that I'm feeling more confident about how I dress.

taylor

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Definitely in my 40's...
I feel ok in my 50's , but my age is showing:) I don't feel so beautiful, but i like who I am inside!! I take the bad looking days with a shrug and the "Good" days as a gift:)

Sihaya

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It keeps getting better. I felt great in my 20's. And now I feel great in the first half of my 40's.

annagybe

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It took me till my mid 30's to feel good about myself. I lost a lot of weight (almost 60 lbs), and had a subsequent boost in my self-esteem.

Katiepea

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I feel probably my most beautiful right now, at 36. It is a lovely way to feel after battling many, many years of insecurity and feeling like I was ugly.

Laura

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I know it's more PC to say you love how you are now, but looking at the cold hard facts, with some distance between me and my 30s, and ONLY physically speaking (I am not considering how I feel inside, which is better now than in my 30s), I looked better in my 30s.

Kristen

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I would say it's been the last few years since I entered my 40s. My 20s were all over the place, my 30s were all about being complacently married and letting myself go even more to seed, and the last 5 years have been about improving my health, my self-esteem, my looks, my brains, and my dreams. It's still a bit of a roller-coaster and I'm not particularly liking the way I look or feel right at this moment, but I feel most powerful and able to change myself now into someone beautiful than I ever have before.

But sheer looks, I peaked at about 14.

Tanya

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Very interesting article. I would not say that I feel beautiful in the true meaning of the word, but I certainly feel most confident/happy about the way I look right now ( I am 32).

bj1111

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i was most beautiful in my early thirties. but i FEEL more beautiful as i get older and more comfortable with me.

i've also been actively working out the past year initially in response to a shoulder injury but i kept it up for the health and psychological benefits. because of this exercising, i'm more conscious of eating better. i feel strong, which to me is a significant part of feeling beautiful.

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