I am surrounded and have always been surrounded by pretty pears. My mom, my sister, my best friend growing up, my oldest daughter, and my current two best and most fashionable friends are all pretty pears. I grew up thinking this was the ideal female form and I would get sooo frustrated when I couldn't wear strappy sundresses (not enough support for the "girls" and my shoulders look too mammoth, not dainty!), low-rise jeans, bikinis (they look best on pears), and when my hips and butt never seem to fill out pants quite right but blouses never button over my chest!!
It's been a long slow process, to learn to embrace my shape for what it is and learn to like it and then to even love it. Along the way, I made a lot of fashion mistakes because I was constantly wanting to wear styles that just didn't work for my shape. Or were handed down to me by big sis, so I was stuck thinking something was wrong with my body - not realizing until later in life it wasn't my body, it was the clothes.
A couple of things really helped my attitude adjustment:
1) A guy I dated told me I was "sweater meat" once. Sounds lewd to type that out, but when he said it, it came across as a compliment, trust me!! Especially because I was about 30 lbs overweight at the time, and his last girlfriend was model thin. After that, I learned to embrace sweaters and stopped trying so hard to fit into tops with buttons.
Maya, I know you say you don't want to draw that kind of attention... I'm just saying, when it's attention from someone you like, it ain't so bad.
2) I went shopping - a lot - with my very fashionable friends and we did a Trinny and Susannah therapy, trying on the same styles. Opened up my eyes. And I came to realize that they all long to be able to wear styles that I can wear but look awful on them!! Grass is always greener sorta thing.
3) My DD13 blossomed into an hourglass - she's two inches taller, her waist is only 23 inches, and her chest is a little bigger than mine. My DD13 is gorgeous. I see now what I overlooked when I was that age, and I had a 23 inch waist too. I want to cry when I think about all those years wasted hating my body. My DD13 LOVES her shape. She has the healthiest, most well-adjusted body image. She focuses more on what her body can do than how it looks - she's a swimmer. She loves her broader shoulders because it means she can swim faster. And my DD13 has a knack for dressing herself - that started a few years ago. She naturally gravitates towards figure-flattering styles.
My DD15 is also gorgeous - and a pretty pear. She has an enviable figure. The type of figure I have envied my whole life. And of course, she envies DD13 and me and wishes she was an hourglass!!!! ACK. Why can't we women be happy with what we have, and stop wasting time wishing we were something different?
DD15 could easily pull of that outfit in the photo. She currently styles herself "chic geek" - a look that I would only look ridiculous in. Do you know that type? Think dyed hair with bangs, nose ring, converses, skinny jeans (she has a pair of black and white skinny jeans), shirt with a recycle logo or save the world logo or who killed Amanda Palmer logo, or a homemade top made out of army-navy store tee shirts, a scarf tied artfully around her neck, and funkly glasses. No she doesn't have died hair or nose ring... but she wants both!! And I hate to say this but could definetly pull it off. For you Bostonites, when we hang out at Mass Art, she fits right in.
Okay now I'm rambling!!!