Zoe, thank you for checking up on me!
I keep coming back to this thread and reading and re-reading and each time I pick up on something new, which has been great when I have been feeling low.
I am trying to take better care of myself and really stop and think about why I am feeling the way I'm feeling when those moments hit.
I haven't decided what I am going to do about my hair. I had another culture/work induced moment this past week when I attended my meeting. Another girl I had worked with earlier this year was also in attendance. We both are of mixed ancestry and weren't raised traditionally--- yet, she has darker skin and more typical features. She was received much more warmly and people spoke with her more, despite the fact that they were interested in work I had done.