hey everyone - here is the verdict!! - pants survived - I think by virtue of the stretchers - the link to the stretchers is in one of my posts above. They are about 1/2 - 3/4" shorter (that may be from a bit closer fit)- and fit a bit slimmer after washing - not dissimilar to when they arrive fresh from the cleaners. they did require pressing and I used a pressing cloth (old split apart pillowcase) to prevent iron "shine" - I think they may have shrunk a bit but they are definitely not shrunk so much as to be unwearable. The stain did come out - YAY
But they required a significant amount of TLC - hand wash - dry in the stretchers - and then ironing!! SO would I wash them again? I'm undecided at this point. I usually run my other Sloans thru the dryer with Dryell a couple times before I actually send them to the cleaners. That is quick and easy - doesn't have the horrible chemical dry cleaning footprint, etc. I'm looking for a green cleaner closer to my office so it doesn't have to be such a chore to get to the dry cleaners!!
Good Luck everyone - I really felt like I was channeling my inner Crazy Laundry on this one!!
And to all of you who had never heard of pant stretchers - I'm assuming my Grama was just much older than yours!! - That's my story and I'm sticking to it!! LOL