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catgirl

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Anyone else stressed and upset over this? I think my defenses are already down and I can't stop thinking about the misery of those poor women. If you've read the book "Room" it was so chillingly accurate now that this story has come out.

I need a virtual hug!

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Mochi

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I feel like I have crazy news fatigue, but totally understand. Hugs hugs hugs.

Thistle

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::BIG HUG::

I have actually tried to tune it out. I know, I know, but after Boston, my heart couldn't take more.

Anonymous

Big hug from me. The news here is a man who has disappeared after two guys came to test drive his truck. He hasn't been seen since Monday night. He has a wife and a 2 yo DD. I really hope he is alive. It was just a truck, a life is worth so much more than that.

Angie

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I have no more words, Una. I was speaking to a friend about the Cleveland tortures this morning, who was up on the latest about the story, and we both felt sicker than sick.

Oh goodness, Ceit. That's so awful.

((HUGS))

lyn*

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One of my friend's dad's just went missing. It's scary when people just disappear.

I don't think I'm particularly bothered to the point where I'd go out of my way; and my peers and I don't talk about it - maybe because of our profession?

*HUGS TO YOU!*

Raisin

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Wow, that is a seriously crazy story! It's getting hard to keep up with the news there are just too many sickos out there. Una, I read Room as well, and you're right, it totally reminds me of that story. I think for e past year I pretty much avoided the news, well I generally do anyway. Now that I'm back to work on Monday though, I guess all that kind of crap will be back on my radar...yay. Hugs Una!

Janet

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Thistle, I feel exactly the same. I'm already an emotional mess these days. I had my first panic attack in over four years the other day, so I have been seriously limiting how much I read or listen to news about this story. It's very upsetting.

Una, I read that book and immediately thought of it after hearing this, too. I'm just so glad those women are out of there.

Hugs all around.

Isabel

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BIG VIRTUAL HUG !!

I am feeling the same way. We can't get away from the Boston bombing news here...particularly because the College is about 15 minutes from our house. So the investigative presence is really big here. And it is on the news every.day.

I just can't handle the Cleveland thing either. Those woman are so much stronger that I could ever be. I worry for them and their re-adjustments. But then I remind myself of Viktor Frankl and I think about how amazing the human spirit can be.

My mom and sister were pretty sick too...so I felt like I never really had a chance to have a "breather" after surgery. And then I feel guilty for feeling that way when there are people who's lives have been utterly devastated. UGH !!!

That made you feel better, I am sure. : (

rae

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I haven't read much due to already being traumatized, but I did hear about it. Sick sick world...

velvetychocolate

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I had this big long post all typed out, and decided not to post. It was too long, but the gist is that it might be a good idea to turn off the news for now.

Hang in there Una - this *is* extremely anxiety-inducing stuff (ie. terror management theory). One the one hand, it's easy to feel compelled to read up on it, and find out what's happening, but on the other hand - it's not good for one's emotional state, as far as I'm concerned.

Make YLF your home page, read up on fashion, the economy, the environment or what have you - but it might be time to kind of 'shut off' The News ...it's just too much sometimes, don't you think?

Sending over hugs from Gus and I.

Marley

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I think we just reach a point where we cannot take in anymore shocking, disturbing, or traumatizing information. I find that I kind of shut down. Not good I know, but its the only way I know how to get through it. Hugs to you Una!

Isabel

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I know this is about me Una, so please forgive me for chiming in again and saying that I am also having an existential crisis over the fires in the Bangladesh factories. Ugh !

VC, Marley, you and the others might be right. Maybe we do just need to turn it down or off for a while.

Mo

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I hate these stories. Jaycee Lee Dugard was kidnapped about a mile from where I live. You'd see ribbons on fences and the like. It was both great and horrifying when we all heard she'd been found.
Monsters. They deserve worse than death.

MsMary

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Honestly, I haven't followed the story (Cleveland and Bangladesh and all the other entries in the daily Parade of Horribles) closely at all because it's just. too. upsetting.

I do what I can to keep my little corner of the world as safe as possible for myself and others, and I try to let go of what I can't control. Easier said than done sometimes, I know.

Big hugs, Una.

Suz

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Big hugs, Una.

I have to limit my exposure. One news hit per day and no more. And do what I can in my own corner, as Mary says. It's so, so upsetting and sad.

Krista

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I hear you, Una! The Cleveland story is mind-boggling. The news in my city is currently featuring a court case where a husband has been charged with murdering his wife - he scalded her body with hot water and left her to die in the basement for 11 days. ELEVEN days!!
I skim the news these days - it's all I can take. And I've increased the amount of time I spend sending love to my family. It's important to stay grounded. I'm sending you a huge hug!

texstyle

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Hugs to you Una! I had enough trauma growing up - this story is something I'm making an effort to stay away from. I barely read the news these days except for maybe a lifestyle or science article.

Kyle

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There is so much evil in the world, but so much, good, too. I try hard to think about all the good and wonderful people who make the world a better place. But yes, this is unthinkable, and it happened right in my hometown.

Ingunn

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Una, I'm with you - this is not possible to grasp properly, it is so painful that people can be so cruel. I really don't know what to say. Big hug!

Ginkgo

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Yes, I have been weighed down thinking about their long, long ordeal. Was awake last night about 3am thinking about it. I hope they heal and enjoy the rest of the their lives.

shedev

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Big hugs Una. I live in Cleveland and I I've lived in the neighborhoods where these girls were abducted. I used to get hassled a lot by creepy men when I was younger. Two of the families really did a good job of not letting us forget their children though so that when Amanda told someone who she was he knew to help her.

Transcona Shannon

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I've actually had to start limiting how much news I watch and read - there just seems to be so much horror and grief in the world these days. It can be truly overwhelming.

I do my best to focus on the positive outcomes that DO take place - like them finding that woman in the aftermath of the Bangladesh disaster 17 days later. A truly amazing story.

And like MaryK and Suz, I control what I can in my own life and those around me and I have to let go of the rest.

HUGS to you Una

Jenava

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It is truly, truly horrifying, and I'm so glad it's finally at an end...

On the other hand, one of my friends from college lives in Karachi and they are voting there. That is kind of a cool story. Not without issues, problems and violence, but the resolution of those people to have their voice heard is really inspiring. They've had I think four bombings just over the elections...it's hard to imagine living in a country where things like what happened in Boston happen multiple times a year.

Aida

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*hugs to you Una* <3

ironkurtin

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What about this incident is resonating so personally with you, Una? Not to downplay *any* of the horror of any recent events, but people tend to react most strongly to incidents that tap their own fears and weaknesses. What about this horrible story can you grapple with, face, and defeat?

Find our strength and we can make the world better.

catgirl

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Thank you ladies - there's nothing quite as comforting as hugs from YLF! And hugs back to all of you.

IK, it's being a mom - feeling the helplessness of what might happen to a child, and then knowing that what probably motivated Amanda to do something was her own child. It bothered me in a way even the Boston bombings - horrific, murderous and close to home as they were - did not, because the Cleveland situation is just pure, incomprehensible, selfish evil to me.

Understand, I'm not a fearful person whatsoever, and luckily have not had any severe trauma in my life. Normally I'd feel rage instead of this sense of sorrow. I just don't know where to put it and what to do to feel like I can make a difference. I'm not good at tuning things out - it makes me feel like the fear has gotten the better of me somehow.

Actually this kind of evil has probably always been around - it's just that we didn't hear about it 24/7 in real time. So maybe tuning out is the way to go...

Jeneva, I've been following the elections in Pakistan - so heartening!

Sona

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After my daughter was born I kept dreaming that I dropped her off from a height. I was frightened to tell anyone but when I finally started seeing my shrink she told me that this was part of my post partum/pre-existing depression not psychosis. Then the madeleine McCann story broke, and the 2 yr old who was found in the plastic box and I could not take it anymore. I got worse and worse. That's when we made decision to change my home page from CNN to something else. Over the last two years its been YLF. We don't watch the news in our house and I don't listen to it on the radio. The fear as a mother I totally relate to because that's what's always driven my reaction to the Newton shootings or the marathon or these girls in Cleveland. But I have learned that by paying too much attention to these issues I in effect become a less powerful mom- more withdrawn, less loving. So I chose to push the fear to the back of my mind, read a little on these stories, pray hard for goodness to triumph everywhere and try to go on. The flip side is many, many heartwarming stories of people's goodness: many more than the sad, evil ones exist but we seldom here of those.