This is actually for advice

Con Con

Okay so no one will answer me..any ideas?
So I like this guy..he has a gf, but like..he kinda looks at me a lot, & if I catch him & look back he'll smile, & my friend said she saw him looking @ me a few times. & he looks at me from across the room in algebra every day. @ a football game on Friday (it was an away game kinda far away) & he walked up & was like "hey what're you doing here?" & I just said I had nothing better to do, & he kinda smiled when I left. & he's on the football team, & i help manage the football team (basically fill water & clean up & set up practice accessories) & at practice on water breaks he'll come talk to me.
Do u know what this means? Is it just that he's friendly..? Cause he does have a gf?

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13 years ago

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Deborah

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Im a bit old fashioned Con Con, so if he has a girlfriend I say dont go there:) Just assume he is simply being friendly and you can be friendly back. But I don't think its appropriate to pursue anything further unless he is "single"... apologies if I am sounding like a "mom".

13 years ago

Anonymous

Whether he likes you or LIKES you, the fact of the matter is YOU deserve a guy who won't flirt with other girls while he's in a relationship. I know it's flattering to get the attention, but ultimately, you deserve a guy who will truly pursue you by first getting rid of the GF. Sounds like he might not know what he wants or he likes girls to crush on him. I'd play it cool with this one! Have high expectations for yourself and the guys you like. You're worth it!

13 years ago

Jenava

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Yeah, he probably likes you; guys are pretty simple that way. But a boy who flirts with other girls when he has a girl already is not very nice, IMO. Plus, at your age, I think it's better to just hang out, not have commitment, you know?

13 years ago

Echo

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I agree it is flattering, but I have to agree with the others. If he'll do it (flirt) with you, he'll do it to you (flirt with other girls if he were dating you). So I am not sure he's worth the effort anyway. Because he has a GF, just be friendly and assume he is the same, but don't dwell on it.

13 years ago

ironkurtin

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Boys can be hard to understand. This doesn't change no matter how old you get! He may be a great guy, but he may also just be flirting for fun. So long as it's harmless, I'd keep being friendly. But - I wouldn't assume that just because he looks and talks to you, he's looking for another girlfriend. Don't think about it too much, and so long as he has a girlfriend, I wouldn't expect much. Remember, he may be a football player, but so? Lots of boys out there, you know!

13 years ago

Julie

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If he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you. Now, if only I had learned that the first time, or the third time, or the tenth time, well you get the picture.

We can give you all the advice gleaned from our experiences with guys, but you're going to do what your heart tells you anyway. That's just the way we're wired. Once you're a few years older, and your frontal lobe has fully developed, you'll look back and say to yourself, "WTF was I thinking!!!"

Rest assured we'll still be here when the heartache hits.

Julie.

13 years ago

Isabel

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I really like the others response and I agree with it. I think that it is important that women and girls respect each other. If he was your boyfriend, you would want other girls to respect that, so please be respectful of her and don't encourage him.

But most importantly, Anne is absolutely correct. YOU deserve a guy who is faithful and honest. Julie is right !!!! If he needs to work something out in his head, then you need to give him the space and respect to do ii and he needs to respect his current girlfriend whether he stays with her or not.

13 years ago

Anonymous

I couldn't have said it better than Anne. Keep your standards high and steer clear of any guy who already has a girlfriend.

13 years ago

Kristin L

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Concon, go with the advice everyone is giving you. While yes, he MAY be into you, he has a gf. And if he's like some people I have known, he doesn't believe in getting out of one relationship until he knows he can have another already waiting.

13 years ago

Anonymous

So, Con Con, did our advice send you running straight into his arms? (when I was your age, it probably would've ....) We'd love an update as to what you're thinking now!

13 years ago

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