"These clothes don't get me"

Janet

I love this reframing of the language we use while shopping and trying on garments. I need to print this out and read it every time I can't find a pair of pants to fit my thighs.

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/.....es-a-cost/

12 years ago

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Latest reply was from Carole

Inge

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I LIKE it!

Perhaps you would like to pop this in the Weekly Links thread too, Janet?

12 years ago

jenanded

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Oh yes!!! wonderful to share - thank you!

12 years ago

Eliza

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So true. We can't take it personally when an item just isn't right for us, whatever the reason. I would be in trouble if everything I tried on worked well.

12 years ago

Thistle

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So true!!! There are so many things that just "don't get me!"

12 years ago

Angie

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Fashion Stylist

Good one, Janet! Hugs to you!!! You are almost a week down I think - and doing great. xox

12 years ago

Caro in Oz

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Love it thanks

12 years ago

DeclawedJaguar

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I tried on a pair of supposedly "curvy" jeans yesterday that not only didn't get me, they didn't even speak my language. But at least I know there are pants out there that *do* fit me, so there is hope. No more fat talk!

12 years ago

ironkurtin

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Lately I feel like my entire wardrobe doesn't get me anymore.

12 years ago

Jaime

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Veteran

When I read this I thought of how far I have come thanks to YLF - I already knew it was the clothes not me.

12 years ago

Sveta

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Janet, you and me both! Those darn thighs...wait, I am loving them, right? Those darn ill-fitting pants!!!!

12 years ago

TraceyLiz65

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This is the message What Not to Wear has been trying to spread for years. Our bodies are all so unique, it 's crazy to think that off the rack should work for us. I am so lucky to have been raised by a father who taught me about positive self talk. It is his biggest legacy since he died when I was just 13.

12 years ago

Janet

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TraceyLiz, that's fantastic! I wish more of us learned such things earlier in life. My mom was very encouraging in many ways, but she often talked about being "fat" if her weight edged close to 130. Well, I'm 10 lbs over that now, so imagine how I am constantly combatting those thoughts!

Changing a habit of a way of thinking is incredibly hard. It takes time and patience. I beat myself up for a myriad of reasons for many years. It's amazing to me that we will be so much unkinder to ourselves than we ever would be to another person.

12 years ago

Carole

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This seems like something we should all set out to change about ourselves as women, I know that many of my friends and me say negative self depreciating things without even thinking about it. Consciously changing comments to something positive could really go a long way in changing our perceptions and attitudes about ourselves and what is really important. Thanks for the good read and the reminder to be "kinder".

12 years ago

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