Oh, boy. Two come to mind right away. Most recently, I wore the Halogen black and cream pleated midi skirt with a silky black blouse and black ankle boots. I thought it was a great outfit until someone at work told me I looked like the Wicked Witch of the West! So much for that outfit idea. I still love and wear the skirt and get lots of compliments on it.

Much more embarrassing was when I was in high school and wearing a dress I'd made myself. Someone asked me if I was pregnant. I was completely mortified--and no, I was definitely NOT pregnant. That was the last time I ever wore that dress, you can be sure!

Well DH's recent comment that my black dress looked funeralesque did pretty much turn me off that dress, but only because I wasn't in love with it to begin with. Basically when someone else voices a nagging thought the nail is in the coffin (to continue the metaphor), but I can be obstinate and contrary when I really like something.

I wore an oversized black blazer in the 90s when they were all the rage (padded shoulders, longer length). Someone at work told me I looked like Johnny Cash. Never wore it again. Hahaha

Boy oh boy, people are really clueless how their words can cut. Or maybe they're doing it on purpose. I'll try to be more careful in my own little world.

I had some loafers that I really liked and, without being asked, my DH offered that they were clunky looking. Since he so rarely offers an opinion I thought they must really look awful! Anyway, I did purge them.

Una - YLF dissapproval is not the kiss of death for me if I already like it, think it flattering and appropriate for my setting etc. I just figure most of you guys don't know those things as well as I do. And I'm harder on myself than most of you are on me. But if I am already uncertain, then it might tip the balance to not going for something.

I hardly every get negative comments in RL. My DH is pretty positive - he didn't like my first pleather jacket, but he came around!

I love stripes but earlier this summer when i wore a blue and white striped tunic with blue linen culottes recently my husband commented that my outfit looked like a 1920s men's bathing suit. He seemed genuinely shocked when I immediately went and changed.

Another time, some years back, when we were first dating he made a comment that hurt at the time, but now it just makes me laugh. I used to always pull my long hair back into a messy bun to keep it out of my face. One day I asked him how my outfit looked and instead of commenting on my outfit he said he preferred my hair down. I asked him why and he said "When it's down it's beautiful. When you put it back in a bun I feel like I'm dating Martha Washington."

Hmm it really depends. My mum doesn't seem to "get' my style but she has learnt to refrain from commenting:) And her opinion doesn't sway me probably because we are very different personality types and our style is completely different too. My sister is a shocker with her quick wit and opinions and she christened my UO Harem Leggings my " Diaper pants" and my Laura Ashley Draped back dress as my "Diaper Dress" so I wear them frequently when I know I am going to see her lol.

Una, I have got rid of four pieces through YLF feedback- I knew they were wrong though. I have been happy for these pieces to find a new home.

I have kept my Mary Jane Heels despite YLF advice to move them on; they are in my holding zone but I suspect they will get worn again. I still like them and they are comfortable, quality leather and I know they will fill a place again soon.

Now I remember one- I bought a pair of soft pants in a bright green paisley pattern. From the market stalls, they are very popular. I thought I was cool enough to wear them out until my cousin arrived and was surprised to see me "still in pyjamas". I have now decided they are pyjamas. Even though a friend wore hers to playgroup this week, I can't do it.

I remember having a floral dress, but there was a certain person in my circle, who gave a negative comment on it. Trust me, since then, that dress hasn't seen the light of day!

I have a few. One was a Gap khaki utility type vest a few years back. I usually wear dresses to work. I wore it with some pants, and 2 people actually asked me if I was going fishing after work. I was not. This was in rural Virginia. Another was brown nail polish. My SO at the time said it put him in the mind of excrement on my fingers. And finally, I got a Lily Pulitzer style cotton, a-line skirt, thrifted. Light, so comfortable for the heat.. my new SO, who rarely comments on my clothes, took one look at me and said "baby.. that looks sooooo old ladyish". So out it went

RE: YLF feedback, for me it varies. I consider the source and how confident I am that an item or outfit works. If someone simply has a poison eye for something I like, I just count it towards different strokes and keep on doing what I like. (One of the reasons I appreciate Angie's guidance so much is that she gives feedback that transcend simply having a poison eye for something as a whole, and more toward "here's what I suggest if you want to try this look."
If I'm on the fence about an item or outfit because it's new-to-me (like the culotte length I posted about) I absolutely take YLF feedback into account. If I am confident that something looks great in real life but I haven't managed to photograph it well (and for the past couple years, I haven't had time to fuss over photos!) I don't consider naysayers on the forum a kiss of death.

It depends, but yes-the kiss of death is hard to neglect! Thus, we have to weigh it from where it comes-and if it matters more than our own feelings. There was a time when my DH did not like to see my nape nacked-so I was just not cutting my hair that short. Then, it happened by chance, and he suddenly approved, even complimented (!!) on my years younger look I got:-).

Ref YLF lethal kisses:-), I am just a safe rider, so never got anything like that:-).

Generally my husband will not comment on my clothes however, when I do wear something to his taste (generally black and minimal - think the movie The Matrix), he will compliment me. I was once asked what airline I worked for, as the taxi driver thought I was a steward and I was off to the airport. That made me rethink that outfit.

I got a chuckle out of sea-salt's half tuck story. I read it to my husband because he has expressed some iffy feelings regarding the half tuck, particularly on men. His comment just now was "I think you just have to sell it, but you have to sell it in your own mind first."

Like Helen, I got the pajamas reaction to my floral, jersey track pants at work and that was the kiss of death. I was already kind of feeling that, so it didn't take much to push me over the edge. To Una's question about YLF feedback being the kiss of death, it kind of is, but it does depend. When I asked about my shoe collection, the feedback was incredibly helpful in getting me to purge some that I needed to see in a different light, but I did buck the consensus on a few pair that I am keeping until styles shift. Still, the popular opinion was strong enough on my mind that I havent worn them since, with the exception of my nude ballet flats. (My own preference for them is strong enough that I am willing to wear them no matter what.). I usually really consider the source. I have a close friend who always teased me about my "witchy shoes" when I first started with that trend, but I knew that her eye hadn't adjsuted yet so I took the affectionate teasing for what it was. I also tend to take it as a compliment when people whose style is not up to date, express puzzlement over some of my choices. I feel like that must mean I'm on the right track. I am about to rock some people's world with some of my recent purchases!

One day when wearing a black shirt fitted,with black pants flares- 8 years ago when I used to wear black - a fellow stopped me to tell me I reminded him of "Johnny Cash".

Another time I wore this kind of flowing long white with large pattern Frank Lyman tunic that I was so happy to wear. I sat done and my daughter told me that I reminded her of "Elvis" with that sweater.

That particular top has not been worn again.

My husband does not like above knee-length dresses on me- and if a dress has shrunk- or he thinks is too short- he makes the comment " I hope your not planning on bending over today "or "I hope your wearing underwear".

The negative remark doesn't have to come from a loved one for me (or for a lot of people here, from the comments above). The one I'll always remember is a green-and-white checked dirndl dress I wore one day in grade school (in the 1960s). My mother had picked it out, of course, which was fine with me at the time--I wasn't much into clothes. But it had a very wide (waist to bust) belt that laced in front. (Anyone know the technical term for this? I wouldn't really call it a corset, since it was straight across.) Another girl, Becky, took one look at it during recess and decided it was a girdle: "She's wearing a girdle!" I never wore it again, but Becky continued to call me "Girdlie," for the rest of grade school.