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The AGE Issue Identy Crisis

deb

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The only birthday I really had a difficult time with was when I turned 30. The rest I embraced whole heartedly. Well, in January I will be 65 and am now getting all the paperwork for Medicare and the health care insurance changes I need to make because of it. The paperwork and change is really not the issue. It is the idea that I will have a Medicare card to carry. Silly, isn't it? I am grateful that I have this available, dont get me wrong. But good grief, I am OLD. Lol

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The Cat

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Well, you look very young in your profile photo ...

Runcarla

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Well, I'm enjoying all the senior's discounts! While on vacation I asked at the hotels and would you believe that I got from 15-20% (depending on the chain) off the rate first quoted to me?

I shared a swim lane with a vibrant 75 YO and last night at bridge DH and I had our a**es handed to us by a couple in their 90's.

Treat yourself and move on to the next great adventure, Deb!

Elle

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I had the same reaction last year when I was signing up. For me, it was the realization that time wasn't infinite anymore and that my body, despite all my efforts, was reverting to being a butternut squash. However, after the initial sticker shock, I decided to try to be more in the moment and as Nike says - just do it. And I do enjoy the senior rush opera/ballet/theater tickets. So give yourself some adjustment time.

deb

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Elle, All I can picture now is a butternut squash.

rachylou

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But do you realise the next bench mark? When you turn 75, you must go to Denny’s and steal some sugar packets.

Style Fan

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Good attitude, Carla and Elle. I will have to remember what Rachy said about Denny's next time we are there.

deb

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But Rachy, I do not use sugar. Maybe tea bags.

rachylou

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I’m not entirely sure you’re supposed to use them. Or certainly not too many. I think you’re supposed to hoard them, because another milestone down the line is for people to come over, open your cabinets and get buried in an avalanche of sugar packets...

deb

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Rachy, are you speaking from experience???

rachylou

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Oh yes. Don’t open my cabinets... I’m a bit of an early bloomer...

Gigi

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OMG, Rachy, I am laughing so hard! I can just picture the avalanche...what will poor Lilypup think?

I had difficulty with my 40th b-day rather than my 30th. Aging by itself can be difficult, but when it comes with "markers" like Medicare, that certainly makes it even harder. I have a friend who is 54 and she has already started receiving a lot of stuff from AARP, which makes her feel old. If it makes you feel any better, I never would have guessed you were nearing 65 from the pics I have seen you post.

Stagiaire Fash

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For my friends it seems to be what Gigi said—AARP. You’re eligible at 50, so the stuff usually starts coming just before.

What really made me feel OLD was a year or two ago when my son and I were moving things around in the garage. I had to hold part of a bed up over my head while he shifted positions. It was so heavy I about crumbled, so I told him to hurry up. He was genuinely surprised it was heavy for me. That hurt.

These days, when he’s taller and heavier than me, I’m fine with him being stronger, but at the time he was much smaller, about like that pic in my question about interview outfits, which was taken Thanksgiving 2016. How could such a twerp be stronger than me? I must be an old lady!

Also, I’ve snuck a few sweetener packets at restaurants for years.

Anonymous

I was offended for about 5 minutes with my first experience with Seniors' discounts at Shoppers Drug Mart here in Canada......until I considered what a 20% discount means when buying expensive makeup and skin care. Lol. Now I wait impatiently for Seniors' Day and march in with my list in hand. With regards to Rachy and her penchant for stockpiling sugar packets, several senior members of the fitness facility I work at regularly help themselves to toilet paper, kleenex , and hand soap.

JAileen

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Deb, you lucky duck! My husband is retiring at the end of the year and I’m not old enough for medicare, so I’m at the mercy of the whatever’s left of the ACA. On a side note, I’m also concerned about having to make lunch every day.

Rachy, so true.

Anonymous

DEB- DH and I are joining you in filling out the paperwork. It’s also coming at the same time we are actually becoming first time grandparents- so it’s like the perfect storm.
I can honestly say that for me it’s no great shakes to turn the calendar- I think because I faced my mortality 5 years ago with cancer and the past 2 years with back to back heart surgeries calendars don’t phase me.
Each day and year is a gift even if filled with creaking bones/ joints, achy muscles, mild forgetfulness and loss of friends.
My attitude is- Wisdom beats youth !

Runcarla

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I'm with you lisa p. The pharmacy also carries a locally made premium ice cream that is to die for, but spendy - however, at 20% off, becomes an affordable treat.

Anonymous

65 is the new 55 I wouldn't worry about the card in your wallet, only the doctors office/pharmacist sees it. Medicare exists and thats a good thing!

i thought turning 40 would bother me more, but it really didn't. No midlife cri....hang on...thats my new Harley being delivered!
The number doesn't bother me, but some workouts like Mondays spin class, remind me im technically middle aged.

Anonymous

You're older, yes, and job well done, keep up the good work!

Staysfit

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Rachy, why only Denny’s? The elder set make the rounds here and get the little jam packs at the pancake houses also!

rachylou

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Denny’s is Number One, but you can and should totally do it everywhere, anywhere, all the time! And Yes to other products! My mother keeps us well stocked with ketchup packs from Burger King. No one tell her I have started throwing them out...

Anyone ever been to a Luby’s? It’s like a giganto beige school cafeteria! Very exciting to push a fiberglass tray along miles of metal track!

chouette22

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In your last bootcut post, you looked absolutely freaking amazing! If you feel as good as you look, then there is nothing stopping you from enjoying the many years to come. The number is not important, it's how you feel.

Suz

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Echoing Lisa P. I had a moment of righteous indignation and insulted pride at Shopper's until I realized that the age of "seniors" there is 55, not 60 or 65. And then I figured out how much I was saving on makeup and face cream and now I save my list for discount days!

Deb, you look exceptionally young in your photos. Not to mention, beautiful. But I know what you are saying -- some of those birthdays hit us harder than others. In my experience, you just have to live through the feelings and they go away as you adjust to the new identity.

Stagiaire Fash

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For me it’s not the birthdays—it’s the years, and knowing who I’m up against for jobs. I don’t have the work experience a person my age could/ should have; I have as much as a young person. I’ll have to find a way to make up the chipper deficit.

Barbara Diane

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I usually freak out a bit on my birthday one year ahead of a milestone. On the other hand I love the discounts.
Mostly avoiding the mortality aspect. Yes, I know that I’m in denial.

Janet

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I haven't been truly freaked out by any milestone birthdays yet. Even 50 was like, ok, here we are. I get a little freaked out by the changes in my skin that get more pronounced each year, but otherwise I'm living in a state of denial!

I also don't remember ever getting anything from AARP, but many of my friends have. I need to find out if any pharmacies/grocery stores in the states have those great deals for 55+ in the next couple of years!

Cardiff girl

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Whilst not wishing to sound holier than thou,after working in a hospital and seeing things happen to people younger than myself I try and regard each passing year as a triumph against the pale rider.No I don’t like the physical decline but emotionally I m so much more at peace with myself and who I am ,I hope that you are too.

Anonymous

The time it gets really serious is when someone tells you that you probably have 5-10 good years left and they are being generous. Use it or lose it becomes more real. You look great.

deb

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Joy, I am not looking forward to that discussion. lol

Barbara Diane

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I both freak out a bit and realize it is a gift to still be here.

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