What would make me leave the item behind?— I don’t love it.


I guess my response is similar to Angie’s—for me, the perfect item comes with something that touches my soul. It could be the shape and color, the wittiness of the design, the associations that are aroused within me—or simply the pleasure I feel every time I see the item. All those qualities you list are definitely important, but, ultimately, my best wardrobe decisions have always been made quite easily because it’s my instincts and feelings which make me certain I’m on the right track. The item just seems RIGHT for me. It’s when my head starts trying to come up with reasons that I get off track…

Gaylene, your last sentence resonates with me so much! I call myself “an intuitive dresser who doesn’t trust intuition “ I trust my logic more.
Maybe I should trust my instincts more.

I have the opposite problem of “making things work” so I need to listen to my intuition that one thing that is minimally annoying now will prevent me from wearing it later.

I was going to say the one I don't need but Angie made a great point and need is relative. I am like others who leave it behind due to fabric quality, too hard to incorporate in my wardrobe and not fitting properly. I also leave things behind that are out of my comfort zone. Someone else might say it looks good and its something I like, but I think I will feel uncomfortable wearing in public. I like my clothes to be forgettable so if I think I'm going to be self aware of the outfit, I'll leave it behind. Probably why I have too many jeans and not enough fancy stuff.