Testing my resolve HELP!!! ETA TOO LATE! trigger pulled !!

approprio

A long standing fantasy item has just crossed my shopping radar.

It is a classic by a favourite designer. Ever since I first saw this thing about ten years ago, I have wanted it. Every once in a while, I go looking for it and never find it.

I do not need it. I don't know if I would wear it. I don't dare add it as a find, or post a link.

It is expensive. It is within my grasp.

I could buy it right now. Or I could just walk away.

ETA: I figured I may never see these at an accessible price again so I went for it.

I've added them as a find from a different source, but I paid significantly less than listed here. They are now on their way to me.

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Ann Demeulemeester Lace-Up Leather Boots

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7 years ago

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Anonymous

OH!!!! I don't know what to say!! I want to support you and send you strength, BUT if it really is a long standing fantasy, then maybe you should buy it while you have the opportunity.

(I failed you).

7 years ago

Anonymous

If you're not sure you'd even wear it, I'd vote no.

7 years ago

Anonymous

THIS is why I am going to tell you to walk away.

1. I do not need it

2. I don't know if I would wear it. THIS LAST ONE IS HUGE IN MY OPINION.

3. It is expensive.

Walk away.

7 years ago

Angie

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I want to know what it is!

7 years ago

Joy

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Walk away unless it can be returned if you later have buyers' remorse.

7 years ago

Anonymous

I would chalk it up to a win (it's finally in front of you, and you could swing the cost) and take comfort in being able to turn it down . Empower yourself, as the saying goes. What is this thing anyways??

7 years ago

approprio

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It's a pair of shoes by Ann D.

They are perfect, but tall. I know from experience I can wear shoes this tall, but I haven't in a while.

They can be returned.

I'm almost crying here.

7 years ago

Angie

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Not EVERYTHING in our wardrobe needs to be a workhorse. That's simply the wrong approach to a functional wardrobe that you love and admire. If these shoes will bring you LOTS of happiness, Liz - I vote go for it.

7 years ago

Inge

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I am going to be the enabler here, Liz...

If you have been dreaming about these shoes for almost a decade, can afford them at the current price, and you are sure you can walk in that heel height, then why not.
You are the kind of gal who gets enormous pleasure from having (and wearing) beautifully crafted designer items, you love the history and craftmanship behind them, and for you an item of clothing or footwear is more than "just something to wear". If these shoes have been speaking to you for so long, then it won't be an "on-the-whim" purchase, which will limit buyer's remorse afterwards, methinks.

Just my two cents

7 years ago

Inge

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Hah! I had a feeling Angie would agree:-)

7 years ago

Anonymous

I think it all depends on if you will wear them. I don't think it depends on if you will wear them a lot. If you have been searching for years and you will wear them, plus they are returnable, maybe you need some time with them and your wardrobe to see if the fit is really there, or best left to fantasy.

7 years ago

merwoman

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you only get one kick at the can so to speak....you know where I'm going with this train of thought

7 years ago

approprio

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They fit alright. I've had cheap knockoffs of these shoes and worn them into the ground. I'd actually been wondering where the latest pair would come from.

I think my biggest fear is owning the Real Thing and still wearing knockoffs because they're more comfortable.

7 years ago

Mochi

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Are you going to be lying awake at night, regretting the shoes that got away? If so, consider......

7 years ago

Janet

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Hmm, if they have been in your radar for ten years, and they are returnable, I say try them! You will kick yourself if you don't give them a shot. If they are not comfortable upon test wearing at home, you know it's not meant to be and you can put a decade-long obsession to rest. But if you don't try them, you'll never know.

7 years ago

amiable

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Absolutely get them - why not?

7 years ago

jill58

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I say try them too. I think you might be sorry if you don't. You might want to see if you reach for them during the return window. If not, then you could consider returning them.

7 years ago

always trying

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I agree with Angie, some items may not get worn much, but if you love them and they have so much happiness when you do wear them , then get them. we all need those little precious items.

7 years ago

Sara L.

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I don't think it's a whim when you've been lusting after them for a decade. I think you should try them out and see how they work with your wardrobe.

7 years ago

approprio

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Ok. I've been enabled. I pulled the trigger. I will need to be absolutely brutal with myself when they arrive though.

7 years ago

Greyscale

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Hm. I do this sometimes: develop an obsession, eventually buy, then realize I'll never wear them (sometimes the obsession takes on a life of its own, beyond my actual desire for the item). But the shoes (or dress, or whatever) become almost like sculptures in my collection -- I like looking at them. Still, I'm not sure it's worth the cost, or the time spent obsessing.

But all that said, it sounds like there's a good chance they'll become one of your "wow!" items that you end up wearing more than expected. And you can always resell them. And... Ann D! I'd go for it.

Edit: YAY! Just saw your update. Good choice.

7 years ago

Inge

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Yay!!-) DO keep us posted, Liz.

7 years ago

Diana

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I think you made the right choice! They are returnable after all.

And AD makes incredible shoes.

7 years ago

Joy

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Yay! Those beauties look perfect for your style. Enjoy!

7 years ago

Emily K

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Not to be an enabler or anything, but sometimes you just gotta grab the opportunity when it comes along. And, those are pretty incredible boots!

7 years ago

Ledonna N.

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I really like reading this whole thread and all of the enablers.lol

I am glad you bought them. I agree with Angie. Here is the reason why.

I have 2 pairs of boots thay are fantasy to reality. I've wlrn tbem less than 10 times. But. I love them anf enjoy them.i hopr you get and much pleasure

7 years ago

JAileen

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If you're not sabotaging your retirement, or something serious like that, then I don't see the problem. Of course, there is the opportunity cost. By buying this, you can't do or buy something else. Only you know the relative merits of those opportunities. And they're returnable, so you can think this over.

7 years ago

Gigi

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I am jumping on the "buy them" bandwagon! If these have been a longstanding desire of yours, I think it's important to honor that. You have a very artistic side, and that side is speaking to you.

Since they are returnable, it's not the end of the world if they don't work out. And maybe once you get them, you'll decide that they aren't comfortable enough to warrant keeping them...but there's no way to know that unless you try. Once you've tried them, even if they don't work, you'll be able to stop obsessing about them.

And Angie is right that not everything in your wardrobe needs to be a workhorse, especially, in my opinion, shoes. Shoes can do amazing things for an outfit, but they're not always comfortable, so you wear them for occasions where you only need to be out for an hour or two. I have a few pairs of shoes that aren't very comfortable but that I absolutely love--and often get compliments on. They're a very important part of my wardrobe simply because they make me very happy when I do wear them.

7 years ago

Style Fan

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They are so you. And you have been dreaming about them for 10 years. See how you feel when they arrive. A few well chosen pieces make for an amazing wardrobe IMHO.

7 years ago

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