Talk me off a fashion cliff

annagybe

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The more I think about it, the more I hate my outfit today.

http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....ne-tasting

I want to run to Totokaelo (it's on the way to the wine tasting) and buy a whole new outfit. Looking at this dress

http://totokaelo.com/store/pro.....ress/black

13 years ago

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Latest reply was from cciele

ironkurtin

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You look fine. What are you trying to avoid by buying a new outfit? What insecurity are you trying to fix?

13 years ago

catgirl

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Stay strong - the dress is adorable but you shouldn't make purchases just to be able to change an outfit you don't like - you could end up with something else that doesn't work!

13 years ago

annagybe

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Yeah but I seriously loathe my outfit. I don't feel cool in it. The wine tasting is for a singles activity group, so who knows who I could meet.

13 years ago

Deborah

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Anna, that dress is fab, I'd find that hard to resist. Your outfit today is casual and nicely put together. I wonder if you put yourself under pressure to look not only fab but also "interesting" and unique on a daily basis? Today's outfit it perhaps more mainstream in the styling but you still look lovely:)

Edit: Anna just read your comment above, I need to add that you look friendly and approachable in this outfit too.

13 years ago

Beth

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Oh dear. No help here...that dress is awesome and very you.

It does give a very different look than what you're currently wearing (which I also like very much). How dressy is the wine-tasting?

13 years ago

catgirl

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So what would you pair with the dress? If you're going home first, couldn't you change? Sounds like maybe you're feeling nervous about the singles group but honestly you look FANTASTIC and approachable to me .

13 years ago

annagybe

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If I had time to go home and change, I would, but I don't have time.

13 years ago

MsMary

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I think you look great and super-approachable. Although the dress is undeniably fab, it may be more manrepellery than what you're wearing.

Srsly.

Stay the course, Sailor.

13 years ago

Amy

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Agree with Mary K.

13 years ago

Anonymous

Listen to wise MaryK and step back from the cliff.

13 years ago

annagybe

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I feel all label-ly. I paired my Yayoi Kasuma for Louis Vuitton scarf with my Yayoi Kasuma for LV purse. When I bought them my friend said not to wear them together. I was just tired of schlepping around my black bag.

13 years ago

Anonymous

Don't worry. Most men wouldn't know a DVF from the DMV.

13 years ago

Jules

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The guys you meet will be focused on your overall great look, your beautiful smile and gregarious personality, not your scarf or purse Relax - with the help of some of that wine - and have fun!

13 years ago

Aida

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Anna that dress is pretty but I really think that your outfit today is much more appropriate and approachable for the event; plus it looks more like a springy dress? I wouldn't worry too much about the scarf/purse labeling; most people won't know anything about any of the designers involved. I have to say that I LOVE the idea of the green scarf with this outfit, it's really going to make your pretty eyes sparkle

13 years ago

Ariadne

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Does the outfit you're wearing work without the scarf, Anna? I wonder if it would feel less Christmas-y to you then. I can't see the details on the scarf but the way you have it tied makes the outfit look more classic/conservative than what I'm used to seeing on you. Could that be what's bothering you?

The dress you linked to is gorgeous and I don't think it's Man Repeller-y, but do you really want to buy it?

13 years ago

Sheila

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Oh golly, I just posted a long one to your original WIW...can you jump over there and read it? Sorry, I feel like a blithering idiot.

13 years ago

Mander

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It's not as avant-garde as many of your looks but it looks cute and casual. I can't imagine that most people would ever notice the label thing!

The dress you linked to is great but I think it is anxiety talking.

13 years ago

Transcona Shannon

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Anna - I suspect the outfit isn't quite as edgy as you normally wear but honestly, it's a fab outfit and especially appropriate for the occasion. if you're hoping to meet someone nice and interesting, you want them to notice YOU not your outfit.

13 years ago

K. Period.

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I agree with the wise ladies who have posted before me.
1. This doesn't feel great because it isn't as edgy as you typically are.
2. It is very approachable because it isn't as edgy as you typically are.
3. The menz, they are not so astute about fashion as women are.
4. The menz, they are unlikely to know anything about labels. While it isn't a disqualifier, I've noticed in my life that the guys who can appreciate something good in clothing regardless of labels can appreciate something good about women without getting distracted by the labels. Those that are very label conscious? Probably have a few insecurities you don't need and probably are going to be judging you in a way you don't need either. That's a generalization. Exceptions exist.
5. The menz, they like approachable. They are out on the spot at these things, just like you. They want to know that the person they approach isn't going to shut them down in two seconds. They also don't want to be so over glamoured by your fabulousness that they don't feel they have a chance.

Keep your outfit. You look great and you can really wow 'em on a follow up date. Fashion wolf in sheep's clothing.

13 years ago

Tina.b

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Anna, you've received some great advice from everyone. The dress is definitely fab, but I honestly think today's outfit is perfect for your wine tasting.

13 years ago

annagybe

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Ok, thanks everyone. I guess I was having a sartorially crisis. Not going to get the dress. One, I haven't shaved my legs in while. Two, it's in the mid forties and raining so without tights I'd freeze. Three , I be tempted to buy footweat too.

13 years ago

Aida

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Yay! I hope you have a blast at the tasting!

13 years ago

Angie

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I'm glad you're feeling better. You look great! Now go be sociable, laugh, and smile your fab smile. THAT'S what will captivate people tonight.

13 years ago

Adelfa

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Maybe later you can buy the dress after all? It is AMAZING.

Tell us how it goes!!!

13 years ago

annagybe

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So, at the wine tasting it was mostly people I knew already. Only my good female friend recognized the bag as LV. She wanted to trade scarves with me after I complimented her on her neon green and grey scarf. I declined.
I think most people were in jeans, some in fleece. Only one guy was wearing a button down shirt with a blazer. So once again I overthough and overwrought my dressing.

13 years ago

Anonymous

You know? We do that quite often at work. I once went a got myself a new suit because I forgot I had a recruiting event and I was wearing jeans. So yes, I can relate.

I think the outfit is fine but yes, feeling fab is most important.

Did you buy the dress?

PS I just saw the update. Good job!

13 years ago

rachylou

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Dress was pretty fab, as were the Rachel Comey boots. I say sublimate by Pinning. I did.

Anyways, ya, good for you for not giving into impulse.

Also, you have proven you can do normal, at least for a few hours. Bf refuses to believe that I can do normal for any amount of time. Is that right I ask you?

13 years ago

cciele

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Sounds like it worked out in the end! I like the dress though -- potential purchase?

13 years ago

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