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Not because I need to, but because after years of not being able to...I suddenly can.

I am so grateful to be in this position.

3 years ago

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Lana

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I’m not stopping you

3 years ago

Jenni NZ

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Well I understand it feels wonderful to be able to get new stuff. A cautionary tale from me of allowing the wardrobe to enlarge until overflowing my house in the years 2008-16. I had gained a lot of weight after the coinciding of menopause and bullying and was a bit lost, using “retail therapy” also to feel better.
So that is just to try to help you to hold back a little. Remember Angie’s PPP (patient, picky and practical or something like that!)

3 years ago

rachylou

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That’s a nice feeling

3 years ago

Jaime

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That is a wonderful feeling - congratulations! Maybe channel that into buying one amazing, never before dreamed of, splurge every month/other month/6 months (as works for you). You might get more joy out of one amazing item than a bunch of new stuff.

3 years ago

The Cat

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Have you identified your personal style? Keep items that reflect your style personality, are in your preferred colours and are great for your body shape.

3 years ago

Bijou

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Em, it depends upon whether you have the right clothes for the life you live as to how much of an update you need to do. I have found after weight fluctuations or changes in jobs, a decent edit and change in style is required. Otherwise, I just try to indulge in a few purchases to update and reinvigorate my style.

3 years ago

unfrumped

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How fun!

I agree with trying to avoid the “ candy store” overload, but stil letting yourself enjoy the ability to get nice things.
One thing you can do is go through current wardrobe and kind of catalog what things you still love , why / why not- do you live style but want to change color/ fabric/ quality; do you have lots of similar items but never bought “ the one” you really wanted, or made lots of small purchases over time instead of a great coat or bag; or do you livd a certain designer’s aesthetic and can now afford it? “Retail research” is still useful if you can now explore certain stores or items to see if they really feel like “ you”, but say to yourself, just because I CAN buy it doesn’t mean I should.
Plus, to me it’s still great fun and stylish to dress “ high/low” and decide how that works for you. It might be designer jeans and a $10 T- shirt or vice versa, because it really depends on what fits well and suits your style and tickles your fancy.

3 years ago

Anonymous

Take it slowly. Keep your new wardrobe small. Think about what olors and styles are the most flattering and stick to those. Do not buy anything that does not go with other pieces that you own.

3 years ago

Jessikams

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Don’t buy everything all at the same time, or it will all feel dated at the same time!

3 years ago

approprio

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Then there’s that moment when you realize you’ve bought different versions of the same item, over and over again….

3 years ago

Cardiff girl

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Could be fun!l think if l was in the same position l would really take my time and start with a small capsule of quality essential s then add on very slowly after much consideration.Unlike my previous life l would buy less but buy quality.
l have found building fantasy wardrobes on style app has been very informative about what styles l would prefer and how l could build capsules.

3 years ago

Stagiaire Fash

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You’ve gotten a promotion/raise at work, or have come into your inheritance? At any rate, you are clearly happy to be in a position to be able to replace your wardrobe, so congrats on that!

How did the trip to London go?

3 years ago

Angie

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Happy for you!

Have fun slowly adding items to your wardrobe that make your heart sing

3 years ago

bella

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It's nice but would also be a little overwhelming I would think. I think it is easier when you have some anchors already in place. So I would think carefully about what I already love in my wardrobe and work from there.

3 years ago

Roberta

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Jessikams is ON POINT. Pace yourself and have fun! (I hope you have a second closet!)

3 years ago

cat2

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I echo the advice to go through and decide what you really want to keep from your existing wardrobe, and then make a list of what you want to upgrade. If you have a list, it will help you focus on what you really need to have the look you want.

3 years ago

judy

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How wonderful! Wishing you enjoyment with your new experience.

Very wise words given here about wardrobe spending.

Then there is the whole buying "experiences" like trips or meals or cultural events (which are also not affordable at certain times) vs buying "things" argument. I'm not as practiced at this kind of spending, though I hear it is fulfilling! I tend toward things for sure.

I will also add though, that sometimes nothing makes me feel as abundant as just letting the money be there without acting out the compulsion to spend it, just letting myself HAVE money. It makes me feel like there is possibility, I guess, for both things or experiences, and I've come to value that.

3 years ago

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Hello! Stable job + promotions = disposable income for me.

The London trip was very nice. I went to research and I didn't find anything, but Harrods was marvelous. That's when I realized I could, you know...buy stuff. I was thinking of maybe a Goyard bag. Oh, and I must replace all of my white tee shirts.

I love fantasy wardrobes.

3 years ago

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