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approprio

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I owe you all an apology for posting and running out of my last thread. I could tell you how I have been struggling with RSI these last weeks. Or that I have recently stopped HRT, which is causing my brain to rewire yet again. Or how That Dress is probably earmarked for the next family funeral. I do not want to talk about any of it online, but it would be true all the same.

The truest thing of all is that I am struggling with shame and disbelief at having lost the plot so badly. I have long since withdrawn from the catastrophe that is social media. Half the time I have no idea what to say. The other half, it’s inappropriate and I should shut up. With no signs of anything getting better anytime soon, I am woefully out of practice at online communication, and if I am ever to get back on the horse, it will be from here. I cannot promise that I will do better next time. I can only promise to try.

As Mary said to Jesus, could we start again, please?

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Latest reply was from Olive Green

Anonymous

Yes to starting again! I’m glad you’re back. You add so much to the group and always spark lively discussions. Drop by whenever you’re up to it, it’s always fun to have you here.

LJP

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Well, I'm not entirely sure what you're talking about vis a vis this forum, but I totally get losing the plot on social media. I've had to take a significant break here myself - and returned only when I felt I had regained my equilibrium. I'm not the most positive nor diplomatic person, and social media brings out the snark in me like you wouldn't believe. Or maybe you would. Anyways, I am sorry you are feeling so disconnected and off - but always glad to see you here when do you pop in. You write at a level that is often beyond me - vis a vis philosophical , literary or religious references - but it's enjoyable nonetheless. I appreciate your fashion knowledge too - *that* language I *can* speak.

Runcarla

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I get it. I feel like I’m in a perpetual state of mourning, as death takes yet another elder and the blacks in my closet take on a different meaning. Absent folks get missed, but there’s no need, nor requirement to apologize for silence.

CarolS

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It's all part of the rhythm of life. We start, we stop, we stutter a bit in the mucky parts, we start again. There's no shame in that. You're enough. You're here today. It is lovely to see you!

Angie

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Liz! Please don't worry! Life takes over, can be very tough, and we all try to do the best we can. It doesn't matter if you leave a thread unattended! Pop in when it feels right, and take a break when you need to. I enjoy your respectful, philosophical, eloquent, and witty musings about fashion and style

I empathize and sympathize greatly with imminent family funerals. I wish it were different. Take care, sooth your soul with what makes you happy, and hang in there. Wishing you strength.

rachylou

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No worries! Music from another room…

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UmmLila (Lisa)

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I may not respond every time, but when you come back I always look forward to hear what you’re up to, in your fashionable woman of the world life, and otherwise. Never apologize!

Jules

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Pshaw! This forum is a hobby and I don’t think there are any obligations other than maybe be your (interesting) self, however that manifests at any given time (active participation or otherwise).

Jenni NZ

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I love it when you are here Liz. I don’t understand half of what you say about fashion and I don’t understand your style, I am way more conventional and from a small far distant place. All the same you have always been so kind and thoughtful with any comments to me and never snarky, which I really appreciate. So please do stay and just dip in and out when life allows. I know life events and health/life passages like menopause can throw us for a loop. I feel like I have spent my 30 years in practice talking to women about menopause while simultaneously being pre, peri and post it myself while medicine vacillates on the best thing to do and changes its collective mind every decade or so! So I try not to be too prescriptive to women about it, just listen very carefully and set out pros and cons. I didn’t actually take any meds myself as medicine was in an “anti” phase 15 years ago.

Bijou

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Liz, I hope the black dress is not just for sad occasions, it looks so good on you. No need to apologise, YLF is just one of those fabulous places where you can participate as little or as much as you like. Your posts are always interesting and insightful.

Staysfit

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I’m glad to hear from you anytime, and always enjoy your contributions. We all have stresses that impact our time, physical state and emotions with varying degree, and that’s normal. There is no need for apology!

unfrumped

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Hear, hear and there, there.

approprio

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Thank you all so much for your understanding. It means a lot. If only the rest of the Internet was as lovely as YLF, the world would be a better place.

Yes, I know, let’s not make a mountain out of a molehill, but I feel like I’m coming back from the dead. I sat in front of that thread for days, not knowing what to say. Some things are not the same, they never will be. It did at least motivate me to a deep dive into the seasonal turnover, and a much needed purge of the storage containers, so there’s that.

Sal

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I always enjoy your posts and contributions - it’s obviously been a tough time on many fronts but pleased there is some light poking through…

Style Fan

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I am always happy to see you, but one of the beautiful things about this forum is that there is no pressure to contribute. No need to apologize. I often look at a post and don't comment.

Sally

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The thing I love about this forum is how accepting people are. I’ve gone away and turned up 5 years later and everyone is so welcoming. I really enjoy your posts, you obviously give a lot of pleasure to people on here with your ideas and writing.

Anonymous

Good to have you back, approprio. Baby steps. Congratulations on your seasonal purge.

Olive Green

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I took a long break from belonging as a member, but started reading again. Life happens. For the last few years I have been sole caretaker of an aging spouse, and it’s been tiring.
What else was tiring was menopause. Different brain after. No joke.
Take care of yourself, and post as you please. Hug.