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biscuitsmom

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I've been so down/depressed since losing my boy, I just haven't felt up to doing anything I apologize for my lack of participation for answering posts, but believe me, this is one of the (increasingly fewer) bright spots in my life and I read many of the posts, even when I don't write anything because I have nothing worthwhile to say to anyone.

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lyn*

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Aww - We miss you too, but it's so important for you to take good care of yourself. *HUGS*

biscuitsmom

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Sweet Lyn, thank you so much! I just honestly don't know if its better for me to stay wrapped in a cocoon, not communicating often, or try and jump back in with those I really care about, like YLF people.....and try and put aside my feelings. I know I've really been avoiding leaving my house (not a home anymore) as much as I possibly can, because coming home is *so* painful, since he isn't here to greet me any longer

Debbie

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BM-I may have missed this but did you do your consult with Sally from Already Pretty.
My participation has been sporadic so I may have missed the update.

Suz

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Wondering if you did your consult, too. And hang in there. It's always rough when we lose our beloved companions. We are here for you when you are ready.

deb

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Oh, it is so hard. It does not sound good that your bright spots are becoming fewer. I wish we were closer.

K. Period.

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Big hugs! You don't have to post all the time or respond to lots (even respond to any) of the posts to be there and a big part of the forum. Sometimes it just isn't possible for us. Don't worry. We love hearing from you when you are able and knowing that you out there being our silent companion when you aren't. *MWAH*

Beth Ann

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Participate in any way that is healing and positive for you. We all understand and wish you the very best!

Anonymous

No need for apologies BM. Just take your time and participate when you feel more up to it. ((hugs)) and good vibes. x

Mochi

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So sorry you're feeling bleak, Biscuitsmom. Please be gentle with yourself, and don't worry about your participation here.

amiable

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I'm also sorry you're down BiscuitsMom - please take the time to heal, and join us as you're ready. (((Hugs)))

Isabel

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I am so sorry BM. This is not something that you shake off. I hope you keep lurking in the meantime.

Anonymous

No worries BiscuitsMom, take your time to heal. It took me a long time when my sweet Madi died. I still broke down in crying fits after a year. I lost most interest in things that I didn't regain for aleast two years. People I met would say "you're depressed" and I said "well, yeah. I am" I don't really see depression as a bad thing, it's what we do to heal. Do remember that Biscuit loved you and would want you to be happy, you gave him so much and no one is meant to live forever. Death is not a bad thing.

Lyn D.

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I feel for you BM!
Is it nearly time for a little cookie to join your family?
Just like babies they keep you on your toes, and though a new- be will never take the place of your beloved Biscuit, you will find space in your big heart I am sure.

shedev

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Biscuitsmom, There isn't anything that you could say that would not be worthwhile to hear.

Jeanie

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So sorry. Be kind to yourself. It is hard....they are such a big part of our lives. When I lost my cat, I didn't want to talk to anyone but I did feel better on the days I got out an interacted with others. I went to a lot of yoga classes. Shedev said it beautifully.

Glory

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BM I am thinking about you today and sending over some hugs and kisses. Hope you are doing well. xoxo

biscuitsmom

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'Thank you all SOO much' just isn't enough to show how much these posts mean to me.... I honestly feel like I'm beginning to 'emerge' from the depths of grief.... at least somewhat. I still end most days sobbing, at least once, but I'm making 'stabs' at getting it together, a wee bit

biscuitsmom

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Wow.... first off, I am *so* sorry I hadn't written before this. You all mean SO much to me, but I was just too grief stricken/depressed to respond I feel like I'm beginning to 'emerge' from the worst of it, finally. Debbie and Suz, yes, I did have my consult w/Sal (she was amazing and sooo beautiful) and I *will* write about it soon, and thanks Suz, BethAnn, DianeG, I feel as though I'm finally getting 'ready', at long last Deb, oh me too! It would be wonderful Mochi, Amiable, awww, SO sweet of you! K, thanks for understanding too....Isabel, SURE isn't.... it hit SO hard...Tracina, I'm SO sorry about your Mabi I kept repeating your wise words to myself....LynD, Thanks, I'm sure we will... hopefully in the spring..I cant, wont, go without another...but Mn winters are brutal to try and housebreak one and I'm not ready emotionally yet, too. Shedev, wow, SO kind of you, really..... Jeanie, yeah, does help That was so sweet of her. Glory, you are such a honey... hug right back at you!

carter

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I am so sorry for your loss. We have lost all four of ours in the past 16 months, and it has been awful. The first died of cancer at 14. The second was the baby of the family at 9. Total shock. One minute she was fine, the next she was gone (pancreatic tumor ruptured). That one nearly killed me. We lost our 16 1/2 year old black lab in August. She was my 3rd child, and at only 6 months younger than my son, she had been a constant in his life as long as he could remember. We lost the last one last weekend. I think he was so depressed, he just gave up. His ashes came today, so that was another wallup. So for the first time in nearly 17 years, there are no dogs in our life. It is so very difficult, and I miss them all terribly. I know we won't last too long without a dog or two, but not quite yet. I'll be thinking about you.

biscuitsmom

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Carter, I am SO sorry to read about your furkids... I cant imagine how devastating it is to lose them all so quickly. My heart aches for you... I do hope you get another when the time is right for you. Thanks so much for your kind words

rachylou

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Carter, whoa. biscuitsmom, hi!

All I know is that it's rough to have an empty home. Disturbing and disorienting. Really, becoming an empty nester is what pushed me to finally get my Lilypup - a dog that is. I can't imagine the next time I'm alone again...

biscuitsmom

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Oh sweet Rachylou, it sure is Thank you so much for writing! It's the 1st time in my life (well, at least since I was 4 yrs old- 49 yrs ago) that I haven't had a pet. I went 6 months between losing my beloved Ping (my 1st Shar Pei) and getting my sweet and also beloved boy Biscuit. DH is much more used to not having one- B was his 1st (and he loved him dearly too) but to him, it's 'almost' normal being without. Your Lilypup (love the name!) sounds adorable

Scarlet

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I am so sorry you lost Biscuit. Losing a pet is shockingly painful.

biscuitsmom

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Thanks so much.... we knew it was coming- he was diagnosed with a liver tumor in April, and was 2+ years beyond the 'expected" life span, but was still incredibly hard

April

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BMom! I just now looked up this post. Since I came back to the forum in the new year, I can't tell you how many times I've wondered if you were here, and how Biscuit was doing. Now I know, and I'm so sorry for your loss. But I spotted another thread that said you had a new puppy! That's wonderful -- good for you, and good for that puppy, who we know will have the most caring companion possible.