I am frustrated and need to vent, so thanks in advance for the ears of YLF around the world

I want a pair of cognac boot(ies) to match a recent belt purchase, and bc cognac is really singing to me lately as temps cool. Not even a need, but hey I have really been cutting my shopping in recent months and want some fall refreshers.

I am trying to reconcile my want for pretty, feminine footwear with my day-to-day lifestyle which involves a LOT of walking in an urban environment. I WFH and have 2 small kids so even though I really want to dress up and chic every day, the truth and reality of it is I am hard pressed in the AM to dress myself coherently much less super glam before getting out the door to start my day of shuffling kids, working, errands, etc., mostly done on foot.

I guess I am also feeling growing pains from not just pulling the trigger to buy every pretty little thing I come across. Grr for maturity

How do you reconcile what you WANT vs what you NEED?

Pic 1: what I WANT (Pikolinos, and truth be told, they seemed super comfy when I tried them on, but let's face it, I keep reaching for flat shoes over any heels in my closet in the last few months)
Find 1: what I NEED (Zara, flat but dare I say not feminine enough for me? I just don't feel "like myself" in shoes like this so I hesitate, even though the color is right and they are nearly flat, good for walking)
Find 2: The belt I recently purchased

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