This sounds like a sad, sad trip with some heavy emotions throughout. Can’t offer any sartorial advice, but I’m certain your friend will be comforted by your presence.

Thank you all for your thoughts. It’s sad.

Brooklyn—you’re right. I’m gonna add a pair of leggings to my mini suitcase.

Staysfit—you are also right re Conservative. I use it for want of an accurate term. My friend’s dad, may his soul rest in peace, considered himself orthodox. But this conjures distinct images, like payot, which he did not wear. There were times I had to cover my hair going to synagogue with the family… and all those synagogues were thoroughly abandoned by the rest of the family first chance. No one is observant like as when he was alive, but the sensitivities remain… so I thread the needle…

You might be driving by now, but in case not, consider otk socks instead of leggings. They are much easier to put on/off around other people.

Just wanted to say that being there for your friend is enough, but I think your instincts re: what to wear and how are good. No worries. Safe travels.

The grey dress looks really nice on you and seems perfect for this sad occasion. Your presence will mean the world to your friend and the family. Travel safely.

I’m sorry to hear about your friend’s sister’s son. You are a good friend to travel so far to be there.

So sorry Rachy and you are a wonderful friend. Shiva is a week long out of reality experience and a very traditional family would not even change their clothes much, so whatever you choose to wear that isn't screaming for attention will be fine. Safe travels.

Rachy, my condolences. You are such a good friend. I agree with Vildy, I’ve seen family members wear ripped clothing. Your goal should be to cover up sufficiently to not attract negative attention from other mourners and more conservative family. What you have picked looks appropriate to me.

I'm super late here but I wanted to say how sorry I am. I'm sure your friend is going to be so glad to have you there -- whatever you wear. The dress is fantastic on you (not that worrying about how you look is the main thing, but wow, it's really a great dress) and I think whatever you use as a topper will look appropriate and acceptable to all. The green seems just fine to me.

Safe travels.

I appreciate your reassurances everybody! Missing the funeral and an overnight stay is a different one for me. The funeral was this afternoon and also not the time to be texting my friend. It’s 1 am and I’ve just pulled into my brother’s. Rest of the trip in the morning.

(Peanut gallery comment to my own thread: It’s a humid 68F. The puffer vest came with and I’m wearing it now, ha!)

Glad for the progress report! Are you warm enough?

And I anticipated your question SF: addendum in above post. Haha!

Ha! What a first outing for the vest!
Enjoy your brothers company, but get some sleep!

My condolences, and you are a sweet friend, Rachy. Your support is greatly appreciated, I'm sure. The dress and any of the toppers are a good choice.

Glad you can pit stop at your brothers. Handy puffer vest, and safe travels.