This is a brief update to my earlier thread in which I expressed concern over some experiences from the school DS was telling me about.

Btw, if you don't intend to read any further, I would still like to stress out one thing - always record your findings. If you ever suspect, or even just feel as a mother that things are not right, write everything down. Casual comments may not make any sense and are easily forgotten, but over time, as vague as they seem, they may add up and make larger picture which can be a cause for bigger concern and therefore ground for action.

In short, I have good news.

Today I went to talk to my son's teacher. I won't go into many details, but the bottom line is that although the teacher took things seriously from the moment I told her why I came, she had really focused once I took the paper with my notes out. I think that fact alone showed that it was not a light matter for me.

As I started telling her things in the order as I had learnt them form DS, I could see her adding things up from the behaviour and rumours she noticed in the classroom and it was clear that everything I told her made for the likely scenario of what is happening when the kids are out of the classroom. She had promised to talk with the boy A (the ringleader) and to monitor with the new awareness the dynamics between the kids. She was very supportive and actually said several times that it was by no means premature warning, but it was a good thing I came and talked to her.

For now I trust that she will make the first step to end this situation and I hope my son will have breaks to play and relax. We'll catch up in a few weeks to see if he had noticed changes and how he feels.

Izzy, my friend whose son was also sometimes targeted by this schoolyard gang, has appointment with the teacher too and will also relay what her son had told her about the events.

Thanks again to everyone who was supportive and understanding on my previous thread. Between your advices and talking to close people I was fully prepared for today's conversation and went home with the result I wanted.

Onwards and upwards.