Katie - I somehow missed your earlier posts, but I'm very impressed with the way you handled yourself with the bride. You sound like a great, supportive friend. And since the bride will be your SIL, it sounds like you're starting this very special relationship in just the right way.

At my own wedding my only attendant was my best friend - a gay man - and since he has a better eye for fashion than anyone I know, I let him pick his own suit. But then again, I was much older when I got married, and a bunch of 40+ women in lavender taffeta is not a pretty sight. I say enjoy the experience while you're young, because it's great to have these kinds of memories and stories. I think the "awful bridesmaid dress" is a female bonding ritual, something to look back on and laugh about years later.

Hmm, now "log on" is one I haven't heard. Possibly that is a new one from techie California? Or these are the first signs I am losing touch.

So glad that you feel good in the dress, Katiepea! Funny how these things sometimes come to pass. Fortunately I only had to wear a bridesmaid dress once. I thought it fit nicely until I saw the other bridesmaids in theirs on the wedding day. I thought it was supposed to be sort of off-the-shoulder. Apparently not! It was just way too big. Ergo, I think ordering a size smaller was a good idea. Like someone said, there is always Spanx in case you gain a couple pounds.

What a pretty dress! I'm sure you'll be a beautiful bridesmaid in it!

I recently got married and had a lovely time dealing with a difficult bridesmaid throughout the entire planning process. Did it ruin my wedding experience? No. But it's something I'll always remember. (Just like the girl who wore a white dress to my wedding...seriously?!?)

So, on behalf of all brides - past, present, and future, thank you not being a difficult bridesmaid! We appreciate it!