Thank you to all the commenters on my eyeglass frame post.
https://youlookfab.com/welookf.....nses-for-n

Sooooo helpful, and the discipline of taking photos to post really helped me as well. It is very different to see a photo at leisure and compare side by side versus looking a mirror under time pressure at the doctors. I rejected a lot of things I though looked good at the store.

So far my best tip, besides tapping the wisdom of the forum, is to go a specialty shop if you have a difficult fit issue. I was really hard pressed to find anything at Lenscrafters small enough and none of them made the YLF honor list.

Of course, the YLF consensus favorite (the SALT Tish) is not carried by my new optometrist. I tried hard to find a suitable alternative - a less harsh color on the YLF second pick, but it was not meant to be. I think I will stick to my guns and get my favorite frame elsewhere and have them install lenses. No instant gratification today, but I am learning not to settle.

A few more questions:
1) Does anyone have experience with ordering frames from an online provider and having the lenses put in locally? Pitfalls?

3) My preferred frame (#1) comes in two colors I like: The one I modeled Ash Brown (#2), and what looks like a more burgundy color Painted Desert (#3). Is the Painted Desert likely to better on me? #4 is a rejected frame which was too wide which might be a similar color, although lighter at the bottom.

Thanks again for everyone's help on this. DH is trying, but lacks a certain diplomacy and openness to change. Fortunately he has many other sterling qualities.