Revisiting my "not" list - how did I do?

Hi friends, some of you may recall my "not" list from early in the year, in which I declared I would be setting my fashion neuroses aside and charting a path towards less self-doubt and more self-confidence! Dream big!

How did I do?

1. Helena, THOU SHALT NOT say you don't know, or are unsure of, your style. YES! I think I did this one. I don't feel like I've questioned my style very much at all this year, at least not at a macro-directional level.

2. Helena, THOU SHALT NOT say you don't know your color palette. Mission accomplished. I've focused on cool colours and put aside splitting hairs beyond that. Yay!

3. Helena, THOU SHALT NOT throw your hands up in despair and decide style is impossible because of the weather. I *think* I achieved this - yes, the weather this year has been sucky. Yes, there were days when I just dressed for the weather. BUT I don't think I worried about it - I think I took it rather in stride and just did my best.

4. Helena, THOU SHALT NOT decide you're a complete style failure because you have a week or two where it goes down the toilet. Check. Too many bigger things to worry about this year. Perspective is everything.

5. Helena, THOU SHALT NOT gaze at the navel, wring thy hands, or shed thy tears because you have a normal period of self-doubt or self-questioning. Another one where I *think* I did it. No spiraling this year that I recall!

Some of you know me well enough to call me out if I am deluding myself (and I am willing to hear it!) - but I think I stuck to my list. I had initially planned to splurge on a Tiffany necklace to celebrate. But given recent circumstances, I've changed my mind. My mom loved birds and I spotted this necklace by a local designer known for quite good quality silver pieces (and extremely reasonable which is a bonus). I wanted to get some sort of 'memory' necklace that I could wear every day, and I think this might fit the bill nicely - what do you think?

https://www.citrussilver.com/p.....-necklace/

Thanks for reading

xx Helena

5 years ago

Bijou

Veteran

Helena I remember this post, which was just so fun, and congratulate you on achieving all of these goals. Buying a special piece of jewellery to remember your Mum is a great idea.

Helena

Thanks Bijou! xx

nemosmom

It sounds like you nailed it, to me! Your statements of "I think I took it rather in stride and just did my best" and "Persepective is everything". Is PROOF that you nailed it! WELL DONE!

Buying the bird necklace to remember your mom is a beautiful idea (beautiful piece, too!)

taylor

I think you did great !
I love the dainty memory necklace....such a beautiful daily reminder. I do similar things. Not that we would ever forget , but I too have items that I look at daily as reminders ....it’s comforting.
❤️

Cardiff girl

That s a lovely necklace,very subtle and refined ,just like your style.I think that’s it’s a lovely way to remember your mum

Runcarla

I DID notice that you steered clear of the 'compare and despair' trap and relaxed into your style. I believe that you were true to yourself - regardless of the challenges. I like the idea of this dainty necklace as a prize and a memory piece. Well done, TG!

Thanks so much everyone.

Taylor, yes, I am finding having little items around very comforting xx

Carla, so glad that you noticed! That's a good sign!

NM and CG, thanks so much

Katerina

I also remember that post, Helena. How great that you stuck to your goals and succeeded. I particularly like no 5 - it is a goal for me too.
The necklace you are considering is beautiful, what a lovely memory piece. It will suit your elegant polished casual style perfectly. Love to you!

rachylou

I would say you have done well keeping your style truths in mind! I regularly forget what I’m about, so I admire this.

The necklace is very tasteful. You could wear it every day. Also: I’m not happy with Tiffany. The quality is not there anymore.

smittie

Very pretty necklace . Congrats on sticking to your resolutions! There is absolutely no need to get into a tizzy about colours!

I have been bringing back a bit of black and for coordination purposes, it’s been great.

Anonymous

Agreeing w all! I'm not remembering any angst this year-and love your memory necklace

Sal

As my son would say... “Shot TG!”

Great work during a tough year - and do get the lovely necklace - it will give you joy!!

Joy

Congratulations . You have overcome some serious stuff. I love the bird necklace. My mother also loved birds and felt that they talked to her. I donate to bird advocates like the Audubon Society and Cornell university in her honor.

Suz

(website)

What a beautiful tribute to your mother, Helena! If the scale on this necklace is what you like, then I can absolutely see you wearing it regularly. Such a lovely way to celebrate your style confidence as well as to honour your mother.

Congratulations on entering a new more confident style era. I'll bet your mother would be proud.

Gretchen

What a lovely way to celebrate your goals and remember your mom. I have a pendant that was made from my father's wedding ring, and wear it often. Hope yours brings you joy.

Barbara Diane

Congrats on sticking your "not" goals.
Necklace is sweet and special. Heading back to look at what else is there.

Jaime

Well done I'd say! Necklace will remind you of your mother and your ability to meet your goals - seems like a winner to me.

Thanks everyone! The necklace is very delicate, which I wanted since I often wear larger earrings and I didn't want them to compete.
Joy, that's a great idea. I'm not very supernaturally inclined, but I would almost swear the birds have been checking on me lately
Thanks all you lovely people ... Never doubt the tremendous impact of your kind words xoxox

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