JAileen, Catherine, Jamie and NancyW-
Thank you so much. Every comment is helping.

NancyW-His neurologist has already told me she is going to talk to the anesthesiologist and see what ideas they can come up with to prevent it from happening. He had a heart attack about a year ago and the anesthesia really did mess him up. He has FTD dementia and it effects his behavior greatly.

Sorry to hear about your husband, that's a touch situation to be in.

There are already excellent suggestions here so I won't repeat them. The best thing you can do is take care of yourself first, so that you can take care of your husband. There's a reason why on airplanes they say to put on your own mask before helping someone else.

The black top paired with your silver hair is a striking combination, you wear black very well! The necklace and the leopard sneakers are a dash of fun to a casual outfit. You're looking great in retirement!

Love your outfit. Perfect retirement dressing; cute shoes for interest, pretty necklace and you look awesome in black. It pops with you hair. Hugs to you from the Black Sea.

You look fab in that outfit - well done!
I am sorry for what you are going through. Sending positive vibes and hugs!

Are you someone who likes peer support? There may be support groups for caregivers in your area. Even if he has a different more rare diagnosis, people with spouses with Alzheimer’s may be helpful resources. If you find that unappealing there a lot of resources online to help caregivers. My parents were both very resistant to having other people in their home so we had to kind of sneak in help slowly.

Sending hugs and positive vibes

Your outfit was/is fab, but then I love an outfit that lets the footwear be the star!

Congratulations on retirement and may you find satisfactions with your new routines and opportunities. A tough road ahead, and it sounds like you have lots of support through struggles, so I’m just adding my best wishes. Take care,

But I do want to second Nancy’s words regarding addressing hospital delirium. If a patient’s family is not familiar with it, it’s a frightening shock which no one explains.

I am sorry you are going through this tough time. I am not retired yet but am looking forward to it, although I do know it will be a huge adjustment. I love all the wonderful advice you have received here and don't have anything to add. Just hugs and sympathy.

Hi Debbie, you've received tons of great support and advice here, so I'm chiming in to add one small idea. You mentioned journaling. That's such a good idea! I wanted to share the idea of using an online journal called 750 words. https://750words.com/

The idea is to write anything that comes to mind with a goal of hitting 750 words, which is three pages. It's based on the concept of morning pages from writer Julia Cameron. But even if you don't hit 750 words, it's still a fun way to journal. They do a substantial free trial. When I found I enjoyed it, I paid for an annual membership.

Hope that's helpful!

Thank all of you!
Lisa, Star, Susie, Cat2, Kkards, CJH, RobinF. Thank you for your thoughtful comments I really appreciate it.

Laura-Thank you so much for the recommendation. I am going to try it and see if I like it. I really appreciate it.

I’m so sorry you are going through a difficult time with your husband. Dementia is so so hard. But you are looking fantastic. I hope that gives you self-confidence as you navigate the changes ahead.