I'm not very active in this forum, so I don't know if I come across accurately here, but I have other online places where I am very active, and I have met in person many of the friends made there, and they've all told me I was just as they expected me to be. =o)

I saw this over the weekend and really had to think before I responded. I'm not sure I come off the same. I'm more sarcastic in person and try to check that on line. I've met Angie and San IRL and they were exactly as I pictured them.

I want to be as tactful as Angie and as gracious as San. These are qualities I need to work on.

interesting thread. I confess I haven't read every single response..just skimmed over most of them. I do have to say I agree with Michelle in that Marianna has a deeper voice than I expected and she carries herself as mature beyond her years. I loved that about her.
I'm like Debbie-- I have a sarcastic side and have to keep that in check when writing as to not come across as flippant and arrogant. I think that I am fairly outgoing, but don't need to be the life of the party. I prefer a quiet evening with a few couples over a night on town or a large gathering. I would say I'm a no nonsense gal but I don't take everything too seriously. I do know that I have a tendancy to obsess over little details (like the fact that google is telling me that I spelled "tendancy" wrong) but I'm going to leave it alone for now... normally I would keep retyping until I got it right Oh, and I'm a recovering people pleaser.

I haven't had time to read most of the replies yet but wanted to comment before losing this thread. I probably come across as more blunt and to-the-point on the internet than in person. I'm usually able to get on in small bursts of time before getting interupted, so I hurry and often post before editing.

After meeting a few YLFers in London on saturday Dawn and Jean came across exactly like they are online quite and calm but with confidence. Fi was much more confident than I imagined from online and Ele is like a bottle of pop! very bubbly, chatty and confident x

I'm very shy and reserved IRL and have had to really WORK to develop an ability to do the casual small-talk with strangers and new aquaintences. It takes me a very, very long time to allow anyone past the initial aquaintence category. But once you have been let in, you are a friend for life. You'll find that I am steadfastly loyal to my friends and you can make the most serious of blunders and I will stand behind you until you are back on your feet.

I'm much better with writing than in-person socializing and have been able to maintain many long-distance friendships with the writen word...which is good since I have moved a lot the past couple years. So I would have to say that my writing personality is much closer to my "real" personality since I keep my real personality very close to the chest for the most part.

Although, I am noticing that over time, I am making more online connections and I am starting to develop the same patterns of holding back at first and waiting to see what develops before I open up. I am definitely doing that here on YLF, I've noticed.

Well I have been determined to get to this thread although it has slipped off the top page and have been thinking out my reply for a couple of days now.

If I we were talking in person, I wouldn't take so long to respond but as a rule, if I have written a response that is more than a couple of sentences on YLF, it indicates that I have gone away and thought about it and then come back later to respond. I think about things a lot and try to have a balanced look at all sides of an issue

I hope I don't sound conceited, but I would tend to say that I am warmer and friendlier in RL than I am on the forum! Time limitations and a slow computer mean I am a lot briefer than I would be in person. I have been told by others in RL that I have very good people skills and am a warm and tactful person but I don't think that shows much here, which is a pity. I am not particularly voluble at this point (as opposed to my chatterbox childhood) in my life and am often content to listen both in RL and YLF. But if I feel a conversation is lagging and people need welcoming in RL I am quick to leap in. I am also much more of a leader/ public speaker type in RL, which I suppose reflects the fact that I still feel like a fashion novice!

Michelle and Kim, you're scaring me! Is my voice really deep? I have never heard that about myself before. I guess I'll add that to my never ending list of things to be self conscious about.

I've been wondering this for a while and this post seems like the perfect place to seek an answer to a question I've ALWAYS been too shy to ask before now.....

What sort of an accent does Angie speak with in RL?! American? Cultured British (from living in Hong Kong)? A strong dutch accent? A blend of all three? I would LOVE it if someone (or even Angie) sets me straight so that I can make sure I apply the correct sounding inner-voice accent when I read her posts!

Oh, and set me straight for once and for all , does she pronounce her name like Mick from Rolling Stones, "Ayyyyynnnnn-geeeeeeee!" - sorry, I know that's a really bad choice of song, but is the closest description and is sadly, how an average Aussie would say her name out loud if it was read on a page, or "Ahn - jie" as in how I would imagine Angelique being pronounced? I'm assuming the second option, but would love some clarification.

So, come on someone, set me straight, edumacate me!

Katie, you can hear Angie's voice in these video clips:

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/26184891/#29567336

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UORm5sqsOhw

Katiepea,

If you want to here Angie's voice just scroll down to the bottom of the page and click on to the link to the today show.
Closest to a cultured british accent but with a little addition of something else!

I'll leave the q about how to pronounce her name to Angie.

Ahhhhhh, thank you so much! :-()

I can't believe that I was so silly to never even think of trying You Tube (my excuse is I never could before very recently because I couldn't get access to powerful enough broadband - you gotta love living in Australia!).

Anne, I had to hit my head when I think of all this time I've been looking at that frozen shot of Angie and never once clicked on it - how truly sad and cringing am I? (Feeling a tad sheepish now, but shan't edit out my question!)

Edited to say - Have just listened to the video links and Angie has the most delightful and articulate speaking voice!

hehe KP it took me a few months here before I clicked on it too!

But now that you've mentioned it, I absolutely LOVE listening to people speak with accents and those of Europe/UK are amongst my favourites, so I really enjoy listening to Angie speak! (and the Scottish barman at the usual pub!!)

Tee-hee - I love an accent too Theresa and I must admit it is one of the perks being married to an Englishman!

That said, he (sadly) doesn't actually have a particularly British accent. I was actually shocked to discover my husband was English (had only just become an Australian citizen the year before) when I met him, because his accent was so Australian. Turns out that when he moved out here as a child he had a very plummy sounding accent and was being teased by the kids at school, so he decided he'd fix that by practicing the Aussie accent by holding his nose! I was most disappointed he had eradicated his accent until the first time I heard him get cross with me and he said quite sternly "Bl******dy hell, Sweeeeeeetieeeeeeeeee" in the most plummy voice I'd ever heard! Tee-hee, it still cracks me up, just thinking about it! Sorry, TMI!

I think I'm a little more reserved in real life, and certainly nowhere near as verbose!

I was a little taken aback when I read Inge's post, because some parts of that felt like they could have been written about me! I hope, Inge, you don't mind if I quote the bits that felt like they were speaking directly to me?

It's not easy to determine how you come across to others, don't you think (either on or offline, unless you can ask someone directly)? I'm pretty much myself on YLF, although, as is the case with most of us, not all aspects of my personality come out as strongly.
I'm a little shy when I first meet people, feel a bit uncomfortable in large groups, am quite reserved, but at the same time I really love getting to know new people and am apparently very easy to talk to. A little contradictory, I know.
I'm also honest and won't lie quickly, but I don't like hurting people's feelings, so I try to be diplomatic when phrasing things.
I know what I want and am very enthusiastic about the things I love, projects I'm passionate about etc. and don't mind showing my excitement."

I think because posting online doesn't necessarily have to be immediate, I have a tendency to go away and think about what I really want to write, and also read over what I've written to make sure it really says what I'm trying to convey.

Marianna- no no, you certainly don't have a "man" voice. You have a very nice smooth voice actually. Nothing to be self conscience about at all.

Debora and her daughter Kindrex are the absolute definition of willowy.

One final comment about the hair you ladies saw in NYC, and then I promise I'll stop: it was a dry, crisp, sunny day. You'll have to take my word for it that had the weather been humid, you would indeed have noted a resemblance to Sideshow Bob.

April, Sideshow Bob, LOL you crack me up!

Okay, April, I'll hand you that. Kindrex also has wild, curly hair (she straightened it for the meet-up) and nary a curl popped out that day. It would have been a different story if it had been humid.

I think that I'm consistent in both worlds. I'm very outgoing, animated, quick-witted, sarcastic, love to laugh, have fun, etc.
I can also come across very business-like and serious (thanks corporate America!).
I also do not like to mince words, beat around the bush, sugar-coat things. That may be a result of growing up around people who had difficulty dealing with the truth...Did I say that out loud???

Angie? Kyle?

Marianna: you're not allowed to be self-conscious about your voice, because it sounds great! Just lower than I was expecting it to be. I tend to mentally pitch voices higher.
Katiepea: Angie's name is pronounced like the Rolling Stones track (ANNE-jee), minus the ridonculous twang.
And btw, your husband's chosen method of accent reduction totally cracked me up!

I find the comments from those who prefer to think through their online responses very interesting. I wonder if there's a correlation between their real-life interactions and their favoured online approach. i'm an extravert who tends to just spit out what I'm thinking, and the same holds true online. Why respond to something later when you can dash off a reply now? I try to replicate a real-life conversational environment whenever possible, which is why I will always reach for the phone before writing an email. That in and of itself probably says something about the link between my online and real-life personae.

I blitz through threads because so much of fashion comes down to instinct but I often put much thought into a response to an OT thread. I guess I can be silly and irreverent but do have serious side also.

Marianna: some women actually go to voice coaches to learn how to pitch their voices lower to help them advance their career. Consider it to be your advantage.