Proper Funeral Attire HELP!

lauren

I have never been to a funeral and unfortunately, a friend of mine passed away recently and I have to attend her funeral/memorial this Sunday afternoon. I don't want to dress inappropriately... so help!

I have this dress in black... do you all think it would be appropriate?

http://www.shapefx.com/store/A.....te_sfx_all

I also have this maxi dress...but think it is too casual.

http://www.target.com/Mossimo-....._ecc_rvi_1

It is so HOT here.. I dont' really want to wear a black suit.

Thanks... let me know what you all think.

15 years ago

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Lana

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I'm not experienced in dressing for funerals, but I'd say the first dress would be a good option and I agree that the second is a bit casual.

15 years ago

Dashrashi

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I think the black dress is appropriate, so long as it's not too low-cut in the front. Generally, business-casual clothing (skirt, trousers, dress) in subdued colors (black, brown, gray, navy, dark green or deep purple perhaps) is a safe bet. In the summertime, I've also worn a black cotton sweater and tan pinstripe pants. Keep the shoes sedate as well (read: perhaps not the 4.5" platform peep toes) and no one will notice what you're wearing--definitely the goal.

15 years ago

lauren

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cool.. I have a pair of nude pumps.. you think they would be ok?

15 years ago

greenglove

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I think the first one looks good as long as it is not too shiny, It is hard to tell from the photo.

15 years ago

lauren

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it isn't shiny.. and I can wear the collar up so it isn't revealing either.

15 years ago

Steph

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I think that the first dress looks perfectly fine (unless it's satin or something and too shiny, as greenglove said). I think it would work well with nude pumps. I think that the second dress would be too casual. And although I understand about the heat, you can never go wrong in a suit.

15 years ago

lauren

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These shoes a bad idea?

http://www.ninewest.com/Bonfir.....or=NATMUFB

15 years ago

Steph

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I think those would work well!

15 years ago

lauren

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Thanks everyone.. I sppreciate the help!

I will wear the 1st dress with the nude pumps.

15 years ago

Dashrashi

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One last thing to consider--if you know you're going to be going to the gravesite, wedges and flats are more grass-friendly than pumps.

15 years ago

Katiepea

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Hi Laura

I'm really so to hear about your friend. To me, it looks like your outfit is entirely appropriate.

I'm not sure about other countries, but in Australia, people do not always wear black to a funeral - I'd say about 50% do, the other 50% would wear a conservative outfit in generally darker, neutral colours.

In fact, I actually wore white and navy to my own mum's funeral. (She had loved visiting Asia and I felt comfortable that in Asian countries where white is the colour of mourning. I also felt incredibly uncomfortable at the thought of wearing black for some reason and felt that this was a good compromise.)

I'm not sure if this would be taboo in another country or not (I'd be interested to know). I guess I'm just saying that if the black dress doesn't work out, you could always consider wearing a darker neutral outfit (ie, navy, dark grey etc) and it is more than likely that it would be equally appropriate. (Well, at least here and the funerals I have attended, it would be.)

15 years ago

lauren

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We won't be at a gravesite.. so the pumps will be ok.

Thank you all for your help! I really appreciate the input.

15 years ago

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