Thank you all. I have thought about the scarf a bit more today, and encouraged by the comments here, I feel positive about it. I am comfortable with it, I think when I have my red bit in my hair freshly done, it will look better.
Angie, I don't think the scarf and flowered shirt go together. Well may be, but I would may be need to be in quite a maximal mood!
Thank you UmmLila, Bridgie and CindySmith.
Thank you Skylurker. I haven't had a black background flowered shirt, but I think it will work. I don't often wear colour at work, but every so often, may be once a week, or every two weeks, have a colour moment!
Inge, so wise, regarding the detailing on a plain black shirt, and I think I will send the plain black shirt back. It is too pricey for me to wear and put in the washing machine, without being overly worried about washing it.
Thank you Staysfit. Wise words on the pink pattern. I think may be I will keep it for a year / may be 18 months. I think I have only one or two patterned shirts, so it is worth keeping on this basis. It is just that it has a shelf life!
Thank you Sisi, I am not sure if they are dianthus. Maybe, I will check!
Thank you all so much for your wise words and encouragement. The scarf is definitely a keeper, the flowery shirt is almost certainly a keeper, the plain black shirt, is going back. So helpful to have such great comments. Thank you!
(PS Tux is waving to you all!)