Janet, I came back to add an eta, but your comment picks up the same point, so I'll add it as a reply. This person is really interesting. Her pattern of thinking is skew to mine. It is really fascinating. Understanding what she is talking about can be really hard sometimes, because I will think she is on a straight trajectory from point A to B to C, and she will go nowhere near C, and wind up somewhere I've never heard of. I don't mean to say that she has no logic. I'm sure she does, and when it is explained to me, whole new areas open up, so it is great when I can figure out not just how she made that journey but lots of other things that could come from that same way of approaching things. Not being able (per her request and Angie's support of it) to ask her directly what she's talking about means I either try 50 other ways to get at the point through back and forth with other people, or I just let it go. I don't do either of those consistently. I like her just fine, am sorry my questions drive her crazy, don't see what she has against me. All I can figure out is that one way our thinking is different is that when I see something I don't understand, I want to figure it out, she is apparently one of the many people to whom "different" and "interesting" mean "ew, stay away". There have been a couple go-rounds of her writing to tell me to go away, me continuing to not interact, then just as I wonder if it's getting better, she does it again. I don't know why she doesn't like me. But the girl who lived near us in fifth grade who was always mysteriously pissed off at me has now sent me a friend request on Facebook, so maybe there is hope.
Kari, what is it that you don't find nice? It's strange to hear someone call me passive aggressive. I tend to say exactly what I mean. If I say something is "nice", you don't need to read any snitty or rotten tone of voice into it--I mean it's nice. When I say "fascinating", I mean it is compelling and makes a person want to dig in and understand it. I use "different" and "interesting" as per their dictionary definitions as well, not as some kind of insult--was in my 30s before I understood that people use them that way.