I can use some help! My dear cousin's dear son is getting married in a resort venue on the Columbia River in Oregon over the July 4th weekend. I am invited to two events, the rehearsal dinner and the wedding. For some reason, only now am I getting around to thinking about what to wear and I'm a tiny bit stumped.

1. Rehearsal dinner--outdoor barbecue with lawn games to follow. Per the groom, jeans and shorts are okay. I want to avoid the lawn games if possible but be prepared if I must participate. I can wear jeans, Cons, and a graphic tee, but I wonder if I should dress this up just a bit? If so how?

2. The wedding and cocktail hour are outdoors and the terrain is described as "uneven meadow-like." The dinner and dancing are indoors but the structure is not climate controlled. The groom says the temp for the wedding will be around 85F(29C) and the reception will cool to 60F(16C).

I have a cobalt sheath dress that I love but IIRC it is a linen/rayon blend and I don't think will survive being packed in a carry-on. If it could, could I carry a dreaded pashmina? Could I wear a tube skirt with wedges or flat sandals and some kind of top and pashmina or cardi?

I am boring myself to pieces with these ideas. However although it's always nice to look fab, I would settle for 8/10 as long as I'm appropriate and comfy. I don't expect a ton of formality--this is Oregon. I am willing to purchase something for the event, but I need an idea of what I'm going for first!

Thanks so much for helping me brainstorm!!!