I can't believe how hard it is for young people to meet others. My son is still unattached at 27 and all his friends are either married or completely attached also...no in between, It seems like people don't have the opportunity outside of work to meet others . The circle of friends become smaller or something.

He was telling me rather unhappily.."Mom no valentine for me this year:("

I hope you're still keeping me in mind, Taylor :p

How can we hook this up?

I might be in your 'hood this summer...!

eHarmony matched me with my ex. I am not impressed. I KNOW we have a lot in common, that's what drove us batty!!!!

lol, in other news, met a cutie on the bus.
Coffee tomorrow!

No kidding Maya!!!

Lyn..how bizzare they set you up with you ex...what are the odds of that one!

Hugging everyone here!! There, there.

And when you're married, every day should be Valentine's Day - you do not need a holiday to express your love for one another. So Greg and I do not celebrate Valentines Day. But he likes to spoil his little furry Yorkie Valentines though

Maya and I shopped and had High Tea in NYC last Valentine's Day. It was a great Valentine's Day!

Taylor, I think you hit the nail on the head. It's really hard to meet people outside work and the usual circle of mates.

Elly, that is the BEST story! Next time you are at the docs please do find out what happended and update us on Bonnie's adventures

Theresa, Maya, and Lyn - that is so bizarre, to be matched up with your ex...

Maya and Taylor, we are all watching for an update

Lyn, have fun! I first saw my husband on a bus...I related the sliding doors story here:

http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....t-got-away

I guess this makes me pretty cynical, but I think a lot of people in couples are pretty unhappy, so I don't know that Valentine's Day is particularly fun, necessarily, for couples either, no matter what it might look like from the outside. I guess the grass is always greener...

Christine, I have actually found that couples who make a big fuss over Valentine's Day tend to be the ones who have the most problems in their relationships. It's like V-Day serves as an armistice from all the fighting and mistrust that usually goes on...

Of course this isn't always true, but I definitely find that among my friends, the ones who don't do anything tend to have the most successful relationships.

Just wanted to chime in and say that I am in a relationship but we are not celebrating Valentine's Day. Don't see the point! It's just another day! I think Maya's thoughts above are very valid. We don't need ONE day out of the year to show our love.

Regardless, you don't need a Valentine to buy you chocolates/flowers/etc. You can spoil yourself too.

To those who were talking about the difficulty in meeting someone once you are past the college undergraduate age group - I completely agree. Most of my friends (as opposed to my boyfriend's friends) are married and paired off, and they don't tend to have large gatherings or parties (or at least, not those that I'm usually invited to.) I'm also very shy about talking with new people (though I've improved in the last few years) and - without being self-deprecating - I am not the sort of woman that men are usually attracted to in a large party, and people don't really come up and introduce themselves to me most of the time.

So several years ago, I had recently healed from a really terrible breakup and sudden combustion of a long "friendship" and was ready to start dating again, but had absolutely no means of doing so in my then-current social circle. One of my coworkers recommended that I try online dating, but I was really reluctant to sign up for a site where I would have to pay or where some automated system would match me up based on my interests. However, I figured that at best, I'd have the chance to meet new people, and at worst I'd end up with funny anecdotes from really terrible dates.
So just to see what was out there, I decided to browse the Craigslist personals section in my city and emailed a few men who seemed like they were likely to be intelligent and down-to-earth and not just looking for a quick fling. These posts were pretty few and far between, but they *are* out there sometimes.

I was very lucky to come across my now-boyfriend, who had a very cute little post talking about his interests along with some funny, not remotely self-conscious pictures (including one of him in a very hilarious Halloween costume.) He was the only guy I really hit it off with enough through email to be interested in meeting up in person. When we met, within our first few dates, we were both very honest about what each of us were hoping to find long-term. We really got on well and have been together ever since - a bit over 3 years.

I realize that online dating is *not* for everybody, but I also was pretty sure it was not for me, either. After I shared this story with a few friends, I learned that several of my friends also met their significant others through Craigslist personals.

That being said, having a romantic partner is not the be-all-and-end-all of my existence, and I've been through long stretches of time where I was perfectly content to be single. I've also experienced a relationship where I was basically being lied to the entire time - and in comparison, I'd *much* rather be single and happy with my life rather than tied to someone who didn't respect or appreciate me.