Another great topic !!!
I am with CR or this one. I handle all the finance and my husband totally trusts me ( poor man ) and I am very practical. Sometimes I show him, but he has very little interest most times and his taste is soooooo different from mine. He sometimes blurts out things that demoralize me, so I would rather show him a complete outfit, then tell my mom !!!
For example, I bought, what I thought was a slammin' pleather jacket from Target for $15 ! I showed him as soon as I got home, "How Planet of the Apes, " he said. I almost cried, though it wasn't a judgement, it was an observation...so I showed my mom and then my sister, who then wanted one just like it.
When it comes to bigger stuff ( like a David Yurman bracelet that I am tortured over for $1500, he says, go get it, you deserve it and you are not a spendthrift. )
I don't know what to think of people who do it....I am pretty neutral on it. As long as you are not putting your family at financial risk. On the other hand, using it as a tool to control your partner is really a sign of much deeper things as some ladies have already eluded to. There are bigger problems in the relationship than a "secret" handbag. I find THAT very sad.