Marianna, More big hugs. I'm another one who really identifies with what Taylor originally posted. I'm not super shy, but I am an introvert and much more talkative one on one. What I've come to realize over the years is that other people just want to see me being human. It's not about me changing my personality; it's about sharing myself and making a connection. I'm sorry all this happened but I know you will be a stronger and better person from it and the opportunities will just come to you.

Thanks for all the additional advice and kind words. All of your thoughts are greatly appreciated and taken to heart.

Much sympathy from me, too. You're not alone in your dilemma. I'm in my 50's and by this point in my life, I know who I am, and I am not "bubbly."

I'm in the "quiet introvert" club as well. My solution was to find a job where I was in a room with just one other person, with little interaction with other people. I know it might not be the best solution, but I absolutely loved my job, and it worked for me for many years. Unfortunately, I was laid off two years ago and I've had a hard time finding any other job, due to the economy.

I know it's not quite the same situation, but I have some job interviews next week, and I'm mentally gearing myself up to be "on." In the past, I've always gotten jobs through referrals or friends, so this is a challenge for me. I definitely have to put on my "happy, confident" persona. I really, really need a job, so that's great motivation. A job interview is probably the worst situation I can think of, because I usually deflect attention from myself by asking the other person questions about their life, but you can't really do that in a job interview can you? I totally agree with what Patience said. Often it's just about putting the other person at ease, and showing that you're a nice, normal human being. I also have to take a typing test, which I haven't done in about, oh, fifteen years? It sort of sucks to be this age and back at this level again, but I'm choosing to have a positive attitude about it. (And I can blame it on the economy, not myself, which may or may not be true, but a little delusion never hurt anyone, right?) At least I get to wear one of my nice suit jackets again (she said, looking for the upside.)

Anyway, just wanted to let you know you have another "sister in shyness" here on the YLF board!