OT: Jenny's 4/9/10 family update

Hi Everyone,

Thanks again for all of the love and support you've shown me and my family.

My son is finally out of the hospital. He seems well right now - better than I've seen him in quite a long time - but of course I am very, very anxious and worried still. I want to fix everything for him and I know I can't and it's making me horribly anxious. I have been practically begging him to come live with me, but he doesn't want to. I feel a desperate need to have him somewhere I can literally keep an eye on him. I can't force him to and I am working really hard on the part of the serenity prayer that says, "and the wisdom to know the difference" (between what you can change and what you can't).

In the meantime, I'm still not up to posting outfit pics just yet, though I'm thinking about it more, which I think must be a good thing. I don't have anything special to post anyway... I've also neglected my hair and makeup so much in the past few weeks that people at work have definitely noticed.

I did get a pedicure yesterday and that did help me feel better. I'm quite particular about my feet and it was making me feel anxious every time I looked down at them!

I'm still mostly in not-so-form-fitting clothes because one of the side effects of all of this stress is that I'm having a flare-up of, um, tummy issues which is making me look like I'm 4 months pregnant. Wretchedly uncomfortable and unattractive. I have only one pair of jeans that I feel comfortable wearing right now and they are too short by ylf standards. I wish I had some tunic tops with a bit of volume.

By the way - for those who asked, my son's current diagnosis (the one he's had for a year or so) is bi-polar disorder.

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Veteran

Thank you so much for updating us on your son's condition. You have been on many minds here at YLF.

It mightt seem like you are just an observer but being there no matter what is doing something.

Please take care of yourself. Stress makes my apple tendencies flare as well so I feel for you. Lots of water and fiber wouldn't hurt either. : )

Many hugs to you Jenny.

Queen Mum

Thanks for the update. I"m glad to hear your son is out of the hospital. It is sooooo hard to not step in and try to take charge isn't it? My prayers are still with you. Take care of yourself.

marianna

Thanks so much for taking the time to update us, Jenny. We're all thinking of you.

Isabel

Thank you for the update !

The good new is that bipolar disorder is manageable. I know it can seem like an eternity to become stable, yet there is so much hope for him.

Hang in there !!!

Srujana

You and your family are in my thoughts Jenny...so glad to hear your son is home and safe

Sihaya

Hang in there Jenny. I imagine this is is incredibly, incredibly hard for you. Have you considered talking to a therapist who might be trained in helping family members so you can embody the serenity prayer sans anxiety? Big hugs.

taylor

There is only so much you can do...A mothers love is immeasurable.

Louise

So glad things are improving, hang in there and stay strong (((hugs))) xxx

Angie

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Fashion Stylist

I am proud of your strength, Jenny. This is all so hard, but you are showing us how to come out on top. So glad you got a pedi yesterday, and of course it goes without saying that I am thrilled that your son is on the mend. Hang in there. (((HUGS))).

chewyspaghetti

That's great news that your son is doing so well. Now we just have to get you to be doing as well . Maybe there is a parental support group that you could join? I find connecting with other parents is really helpful.

Theresa

Oh Jenny I'm so pleased to hear your son is out of hospital, but can't even begin to imagine how hard it is for you at the moment.

You have been in my thoughts a lot lately and I'm praying for the best for you all.

I wish I could give you a giant hug and make it all better...

Kristine

Jenny, I'm so glad to hear he's doing a little better at least. I've been thinking about you and hope you're doing ok.

Michelle

So glad to see an update from you, Jenny, and even more pleased to see it's a comparatively positive one. I know the worry can be all-consuming, but I hope you're able to maintain some perspective. I hope he continues to do well and that you're able to strike the balance you need. Keep us posted. *HUGS!*

Maya

I'm so relieved to hear positive news from you Jenny. I guess all you can do is keep in contact with him as much as possible. It's good that you are taking care of yourself and that got your pedi. When we are faced with situations like this, it's hard not to spend every moment of the day thinking about it, even if in the back of your mind. A bit of extra pampering goes a long way. I hope both you and he continue to improve with each day.

Anonymous

Bi polar runs in my family too and it is very hard on the family. I feel for you and know how hard this is on you as a loving mother. Hang in there and keep on taking care of yourself along with everyone else. Try to get some exercise, go for a walk everyday and see if that makes you feel better emotionally and physically.
Hugs!!!
Sandy

Lena

Active Member

Hang in there, Jenny. I wish you and your son all the very best, and lots of strength and patience.

Debora

Jenny, you and your son are in my thoughts. Take care and stay strong for your son.

Alecia

Jenny, thank you for the post. I am so glad you're doing a little to take care of your needs right now. It is important and can easily take a backseat. I am also glad to hear that things have stabilized. Sending more hugs.

yublocka

Jenny its wonderful to hear that your son is home, and making progress. He and you both certainly have a long road ahead, and I wish you all the strength in the world to get through this together. You are doing amazingly, please remember that.

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