As some of you know, I have an ongoing struggle with my family, who tend to be quite critical of my weight. This weekend is Thanksgiving here in Canada, which means we'll all be going to spend a weekend with my parents at their lovely country home. I'm writing now seeking help with a problem I'm having.
I'm always a bit anxious about these visits and try to preempt as many weight-related comments as possible. I plan outfits ahead of time and try to pick options that will make me appear to advantage and not draw unwelcome criticism. But because of a real beauty of a comment delivered earlier this week, my anxiety is greatly compounded for this visit.
Mom and I were talking about Corey, and she was inquiring about how he's doing emotionally. When I gave her a very positive report, the talk eventually moved to how she thought I'd been very supportive of him during a difficult time. But then she comes out with this: "But I guess he's been wupportive of you too, right? I mean, especially considering your weight."
I was too stunned by that one to respond at the time, then too upset to discuss it calmly later in the day. She then got bogged down with a whack of house guests, and a discussion like that wouldn't have been appropriate. I know the talk will need to happen at some point, and that's not why I'm writing. I now need help to figure out what to wear! I'm feeling more than usually sensitive about all this and am second-guessing everything. So, if you have advice on some safe, flop-proof, not-too-trendy outfits that are as slimming as possible, I'd be most grateful. Hard-core waist-surrendering is out of the question, as are leggings. We'll be in a casual setting where beautiful, cool fall weather is expected. Fortunately there are no dress code considerations to worry about apart from Thanksgiving dinner, and I think I have that under control (black dress pants with a purple, scoop-neck top with chain detail around the neckline that she likes on me a lot, or alternatively my cobalt dress if I have room in my bag).

Please pardon my neuroticism, and thank you for your help!