Thanks, everyone! MaryK, I really like that 'reframing' idea! Think Im going to try that on my sister too..she drives me up the wall most every day Great comments too....Michelle, I think you read my mind with your first reaction! Exactly what I thought....great idea that you had too....San, I definitely will try that, thanks! Linn & MaryK, I think what really bugs here is that when she first began working there (I had already been there several yrs) she had medium brown hair and after a few months, she dyed her hair red, in a shade very similar to mine...she kept it that way for several yrs and now is letting her grey show a lot more than it ever did and I think it bugs the heck out of her she's a *lot* more grey (about 40%) and I am about 10-15% so she feels compelled to point out mine..aaggh You all have been SO great helping me deal with this! I truly appreciate it