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Maya

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*sheepish*

I have not been good about upkeeping my waves. The method I was using ultimately wasn't working. I don't think I can figure it out myself, so I booked an appointment at Arrojo Studio this Friday to see if they could help (yes, as in Nick Arrojo...although I certainly don't have the $500 to see him personally). For now I am just washing it (conditioner only every other day), and pulling a wide tooth comb. No product, no styling. It neither feels nor looks great, but it doesn't seem to feel or look great anyway so it seems reasonable to put the minimum amount of effort.

While I was hoping for long hair that I could wear in different ways, I am starting to feel that my hair is just not in good enough condition or thick enough for it

I also seriously need of intervention with my bangs. My hair isn't thick enough to support such a heavy, blunt style. I am willing to give them one last shot before growing them back out, but I'm not quite sure what else to do. They tend to clump together and get sloppy easily due to a very strong cowlick.

Anyway, I really like this style but since I am not too familiar with my new hair texture, I'm not sure if I can get it quite this wavy. I am also not Audrey Tautou, who looks utterly darling in everything...and has an army of professional stylists by her side.

http://bp1.blogger.com/_xvgBqA.....tatoux.jpg

Other pictures/suggestions (anywhere between chin length and shoulder length) are more than welcome.

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Latest reply was from firefly

Beth

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I have absolutely no advice to give you, just support:) I'll be interested to hear what the salon has to say on Friday.

My hair is my achilles heel. Grrr. No need to win the lottery, I'd rather have perfect hair for the rest of my life!

taylor

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Maya, I am really excited for you!! Pick the stylists brain as much as you can!!:) I love the photo and I suggest you bring it to discuss with the stylist what would/wouldn't work and what you like/dislike they will guide you through this process according to your hair type....this is going to be FAB!!!

Also, listen to any suggestions they may have for you, then edit as needed , you will likely be in the capable hands of a very seasoned pro:)

Lisa

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I like the photo you posted. I'm not much help on hair advice though. Just going to wish you luck!

Debora

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Hi Maya, this is where DD goes to get her hair cut. She absolutely loves her stylist and I would be more than happy to private message you with the name. I love the style that you selected. Be sure to take the photo with you. Good luck!

Dashrashi

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Sometimes a good cut can really revive curls/waves. Good luck! (And if this doesn't work, I've used stylists certified by Ouidad and Devachan--the Ouidad stylists were my favorite, but others swear by Deva.)

marianna

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Very exciting hair appointment. Can't wait to hear all about it!

Maya

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Debora, I already made the appointment but I'd be interested in hearing anyway! I'm not committed to the stylist I got.

AJ

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Oooohhh, great style you picked out. Good luck! Look forward to hearing all about the appointment!

Debora

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Will do, Maya!

Boof

That's exciting! You should be in very capable hands. Can't wait to see the results!

biscuitsmom

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Im so excited for you! I agree with the advice to bring the pic and discuss it...ask as many questions as you can and please tell us all about your visit!

Maya

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I'm not definitely getting this. I was actually hoping there might be other suggestions, like Medusa's thread. But I realize I have fussy hair.

annagybe

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My hair is fine and wavy probably similar to yours. I used to blow dry it straight and flat iron almost everyday. I recently cut it shorter and trying to embrace the waviness. I get a good hair day about every 5th day. I still blow dry it but I try to scrunch up the waves with my fingers as a dry. I understand your frustration. I'm tempted to grow it out again and go back to flat ironing.

Scarlet

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Sorry, Maya, I don't have any suggestions. Somehow I have trouble imagining your face with such a short bob, like the one for Audrey Tautou. What I was thinking is that if you let your hair grow a little longer the waves would come a little more under control, and besides that, in the mean time maybe a good hair dresser can give you a trim that would bring your hair back into a state you are happy with. From the pictures I have seen your hair looks perfectly healthy. The summer humidity is probably just driving you/your hair nuts. I really liked the picture where your hair was long. Not saying you can't wear any other style. I just thought that looked good.

Angie

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I really liked you with long hair too, Maya. But I *think* I like you best with shorter choppy straight hair. It works best for your style. I also think that your hair is easier to manage in cooler weather. Is that right?

Now don't take what I say too literally, little literal Minnie. I ALSO like you with curls.

I hope you're having a fab hair appointment - either curly or straight!

Maya

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My hair is not going to be easy to manage now no matter what. It is so dry it crunches when I squeeze it. It is normally better in winter but right now I think it will actually be worse because it will be even more dry. My brother asked me "what happened" to it when he came home this weekend. It's bad.

I don't like it straight (either the process of making it straight or the look), and I can't make it work curly or wavy. It's just a mess. I guess I just have to ask. The reason I considered cutting it short is to get as much of the crunchy ends off as possible, not necessarily because I like it more. I think it's just going to get worse if I try to force it to grow.

Scarlet

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Not to be dumb, but is it not crunchy because of product? When you posted a photo awhile ago with the waves it seemed to have the "wet look" one would get from using a fair amount of product? Definitely ask the hair dresser if they really think your hair is damaged before you chop it off.

Edit: I don't mean the photo where you said it was actually wet.

Maya

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It looked wet because it was still wet Scarlet In all the pictures. It's crunchy without product. Totally bare. My brother felt it while it had nothing in it and was just washed and conditioned with both coconut oil and a second conditioner. Still dry.

There are pictures on the Arrojo website of "natural texture" cuts so I'm hoping they can do something for me. http://www.arrojostudio.com/st.....fw0405.htm

I guess this is one time where I won't know what happens until I get there.

Angie

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For the record literal Minnie, I don't mean DEAD straight when I say "straight". I mean straight-er - like when I saw you in Feb

Maya

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I know Angie, but that requires blowdrying and sometimes a bit of flat ironing at the ends. It takes a lot of effort for me to make my hair look decent...let alone great :\

Scarlet

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Wow, that is one of the better collection of haircuts I have seen--realistic but stylish. Hopefully you get a good stylist who can help you.

I have read that coconut oil only really works in warm climates (like India) because at lower temperatures it is too solid to penetrate the hair shaft. Or something along those lines. I don't know if it is true and I have no personal experience.

With my hair I have found it a lot easier to embrace the wave, and for me getting my hair cut in layers really seems to be the way to go. I just got a trim today and I am really pleased with it, but she did blow dry my hair with a round brush, which really makes curls. I don't think I could fully reproduce the effect myself, but she is a very good hairdresser though, so I know it will also look okay even if I just let it air-dry.

Traci

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Have you tried a glazing treatment? You can even do home glazes now.

http://www.clairol.com/natural.....SHhome.jsp

I've used this one when my hair was in a funk. It really improved the texture, gave it body and made it smooth. I remember saying at the time that it made me feel like i had "real hair." The hair like I see so effortless on everyone else. It's $6. Worth a try.

I find those wavy textured haircuts are really tough to style. It looks so casual and effortless, but it's actually very complicated to get every hair casually laying just so in the right place.

Mae

My two cents...
...Ask the stylist for a good product to use for the dryness. Maybe he/she can give you a treatment right there if it's still healthy enough to be saved.
...How long does it take to blow dry and use the flat iron a bit? I know I always used to say that I wanted a "wash and go" haircut because I didn't have the time. Once it's part of the routine, though, it really doesn't take that long. Maybe 5-7 minutes to dry and style with the right product. Of course, my hair is really short now, so that makes it easier.
...Have you tried going shampoo-less? I know this works for some- literally no shampoo. Just rinse hair plus condition every day. I think I've heard Nick suggest this on WNTW.

Maya

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Mae, I have been blowdrying my hair for probably 15 years now. I have always assumed it would be part of the process and I have always been fine with that. But my hair has changed and I no longer want to do it. It has nothing to do with time or ease. I just don't like the results.

I think i need to just rethink my whole routine now. My hair might never look great regardless of any effort I do or don't put in because I just don't have nice hair. If that's the case maybe I just need to learn new ways of putting it up or back and focusing on something else like makeup.

I shampoo my scalp with a small amount of every other day and condition every day, ftr.

sinead

Maya, I just wanted to wish you luck with your appointment- really hope it goes well and you get advice that will give you good hair days.

I'm wearing my fine, wavy hair in layers and I don't comb or brush after shampooing- just sort of arrange it, scrunch for around 5 minutes and- hardest part- try not to mess with it until it's dry. If I comb it, play with it too much... it's a flat mess. It took me years to find the system that worked for my hair- I'm sure you'll get to the hair you want faster than that.

Steph

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Maya, I know I have said this before, but I think you're being too critical of your hair. I really liked it when I saw it. I know you said you were having a good hair day, but I still think you have nice hair.

I might have already recommended this, but for the crunchy/dryness, I would use Aveda's Remedy conditioner. That's what I used while washing my hair with dishwashing liquid. and I thought it worked well.

As for hairstyles, I don't have great suggestions. I can understand what you mean about bangs. I feel like they can be difficult to work with, particularly with a cowlick, so if you really don't feel like they work, don't feel bad about giving up on them.

Scarlet

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Steph, I really like that conditioner too. I discovered it by accident--I was just trying to use up odds and ends in the bathroom and found a sample bottle I had forgotten about. Even after one use I could feel a difference in my hair. I am now saving the last drops for special occasions. Unfortunately Aveda products are even more pricey in Europe than in the US

firefly

Maya, I don't know if this will be any help but since you've asked for pictures, here are some that I found on a quick browse.

http://www.ukhairdressers.com/.....%20Provost

http://www.ukhairdressers.com/.....is%20David

http://www.ukhairdressers.com/.....is%20David

http://www.ukhairdressers.com/.....irdressing

http://www.ukhairdressers.com/.....eadmasters

I loved this pic of Victoria Beckham when I first saw it, but wasn't brave enough to go quite so short when i got my hair cut recently.

http://www.ukhairdressers.com/.....071/38.jpg

I hope you have a successful appointment, whatever you choose, and end up with a haircut that you're happy with

Scarlet

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Oo, I love that Victoria Beckham style. Would definitely require styling, but with shortish not too thickish hair, it wouldn't take a lot of time.

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