Off topic life events, but with question about shoes :)

Hi everyone...another crazy week here. Basically, the long and short of it is my mother is dealing with severe OCD and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder which has caused her to become helpless, paranoid, neurotic, and anxious (among other things as well).

She can't do anything by herself and my dad has been traveling for work quite a bit which means she stays at my house (both day and night). I spend most of the day (and unfortunately night as well) reassuring her that she is going to beat these challenges and working through anxiety attacks (while also caring for my two boys and my husband...the house has completely fallen by the wayside).

I'm sure that we will be able to help her (with doctors and a great therapist) but my life is pretty much non-existent right now (hence, no posts from me on the forum). I have been trying to read every chance I get just as a distraction and to keep myself informed, but I just haven't had the time to chime in like I'm sure I'll be able to do once we get this resolved.

Anyway, I was trying to follow up on the great ideas you all gave me for some shoes (non boots) to wear with skirts and tights. Here are some I'm considering and I would love your opinions:

http://zeta.zappos.com/product/7440377/color/72

http://www.infinityshoes.com/i.....eason-Sale
(is anyone familiar with miz mooz comfort wise?)

http://zeta.zappos.com/product/7502005/color/947
(thanks Tanya!)

http://zeta.zappos.com/product/7463015/color/401
(Merrell are REALLY comfy and that's important to me...do these pass?)

http://www.onlineshoes.com/pro.....cid=121869

Thanks!

17 years ago

Patience

Veteran

Dani, I really commiserate with you on dealing with your mother's anxiety. That is quite an ordeal-- I've dealt with anxiety myself and it is just not easy. Please remember to take good care of yourself so that you can take care of everyone else!

Concerning the shoes, I like the Clarks and the Merrells the best and the Miz Mooz the least but I think they are all good choices. What about some color? I think maybe you and Ana are after the same thing so you might check out her shoe dilemma thread.

celia

Hope things with your mother get better.
I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but I guess the other ladies will help with all the suggestions about the shoes.

(Didn't see the shoes because I'm in a hurry :))

Laura

(website)

Hi Dani - First, those Merrells are really cute. I bet they pass. They have the same wedge heel as the grey suede boots I bought from Merrell this year, and those got YLF approval.

Second, I hope you can manage through this crisis with your mother - having two little boys of my own, it's easy to imagine how much you have on your plate at the moment. Is there a way someone can help take shifts at night so you can sleep? It always seems that if you're not sleeping, it's harder to manage and make good decisions, etc. etc. Thinking of you!

susan

Active Member

Dani-Life is certainly full of challenges isn't it? I pray your mom will get better soon and you will have the strength to help her while being a good mom and wife.

I like the Merrells and Clarks. Really I think any of the shoes would be fine.
Have you worn the soffts before? I have a couple of pairs that I really shouldn't have purchased because the fit just isn't right for me.

Good luck!

Anonymous

I hope and pray the best for you and your family. I have family members with the same type of issues and it is very hard to understand.
I like all the shoes you linked to. I am really starting to like the looks of wedge shoes. The page for the Miz Mooz wouldn't open for me so I'm not sure which style you are interested in. I have a pair of that brand that are not a wedge style that I find fairly comfy. I haven't tried walking in them all day. I think they generally have cute styles. I do like the Merrils you chose alot.

Angie

Fashion Stylist

Oh, Dani. My heart goes out to you. It’s amazing how roles reverse as we get older. We become parents to our parents. It sounds like you are being the best daughter and your Mum must be truly grateful. You’ve got professional help which is a good thing, and now with everyone’s reassurance, co-operation and perseverance I wish your Mum a speedy recovery. Hang in there and good luck. You are in my thoughts. We are here to support you in any way.

(All the shoes pass with flying colours).

Lena

Dani, hang in there. I know it's very hard. Please take care of yourself as well.

I've heard good things about Miz Mooz, but never tried them on. I also like the Me Too wedges.

I'm currently testing these Hush Puppies in red, and I also like the pewter color, http://zeta.zappos.com/product/7420012/color/1839 They feel pretty good so far.

Violet

Hi Dani. So sorry to hear about the rough time you are going through. My thoughts are with you and your family.

As for the shoes, I really like all of them, but I think my favorites are the ones from Me Too. I also like the Hush Puppies that Lena posted.

Take care!!

Ariadne

Oh Dani, how difficult. You sound like you're being an amazing daughter and that you're doing all the best things to help your mom. As someone who's dealt with less extreme versions of mental health issues, I can promise that you are making an enormous, life-changing difference to your mom and that she loves you immensely, even if she's difficult to be with sometimes right now.

My favourite shoes are the Me Toos by far. I think Tanya has those and said she loves them. I advise against Miz Mooz. I have a pair of their boots and had enormous issues with both their quality and the company.

Tanya

Oh Dani, I am so sorry to hear about your mom. My hearth goes out to you. Hopefully she will get better soon.

I like all the shoes you have posted. I have those Me Too wedges in purple and they were very comfortable from the first wear.

Kyle

I echo the ladies' thoughts of care and concern and admiration for the selfless support you are providing. It can't be easy.

I vote for the Merrells. Style and comfort -- a can't miss combo.

anne

Dani, I am so sorry to hear about this. It must be such a drain. You will be in my prayers

marianne

Dani, I am sorry to hear about it. It must be so hard on you and your family. I hope things get better soon and it's nice that YLF can be a distraction during this difficult period.
I don't have anything constructive to add about the shoes, but I prefer the Clarks because the heel looks more comfortable.

Amanda

Dani -- I am so sorry to hear about your mom's difficulties; I hope that the treatments begin to work quickly and that the burden on you is lifted. I was in a similar situation in the past -- do try to get as much rest as possible; you don't want to collapse yourself.

As for the shoes, I really like the Merrills and the Me Too Salems -- for some reason I am attracted to the suede. But I think that any of them will look good so pick the one you like best and is most comfortable.

dee

I am sorry to hear about the stress in your life. I have dealt with similar issues with family members, and with anxiety myself. Know that just being there for your mom and being able to talk about her issues is a tremendous help. Take care of yourself too.

Fashion really is a wonderful distraction - I like the Me Toos and Merrells.

Nicole

Hi Dani,

Stay strong sweetie. Know that you are doing the right thing and that counts for SO much!! Try to take time to focus on yourself--even if it's just for 10 minutes every day. I will be sending all my good thoughts your way.

As for the shoes (which are an excellent distraction, IMO)--I like the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th pair the most. I'd base the final decision on comfort.

Becky

Great picks on shoes, Dani! Can't wait to see them incorporated into your great outfits.

Hang in there! I hope and pray for a fast and complete recovery for your mom. Please take care of yourself.

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