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Need 'permission' to say bye-bye to my fantasy life wardrobe...

lyn*

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I don't know WHAT I was thinking; but I was already a YLF-er at this time, so I don't have much of an excuse - I seem to have a lot of stuff for my Fantasy Life in which I have no belly! I only really wear A-lines and flare skirts; with one or two pencil skirts, these days!

I see so many of you ladies and those in magazines looking so smooth and sleek in your pencil skirts and sheath dresses, that I am slightly reluctant to pass mine on. I have put them aside, and the last time I have worn them is > 6 mths ago. I have also taken a look at some of my buying patterns within the last few months - and it seems that I have not added anything of the 'tight body fitting' type (maybe #4?)... even though I've dropped 6 lbs :p

Just seeing YLF permission to hone my closet to more what I"m wearing now ... not rather what a tiny side of my personality would like me to wear!

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Latest reply was from Aida

Suz

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lyn, you always have our permission to look as great as you always do!!

But I have not seen this "belly" of which you speak.

Irene

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What belly are you talking about? No offense, but you seem to me an especially thin woman!

rae

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I've never seen a belly, Lyn, but perhaps your style is evolfing away from form fitting items? As a doc, comfort and ease of movement is important, too, so there is no shame in letting go of a silhouette that no longer works. If you still love pencil skirts and are *just* worried about your belly, I call nonsense - but it sounds like you just aren't into them anymore, and that's okay!

Transcona Shannon

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I say wear what you feel comfortable and pretty in. Although I do not know of this belly you speak of ("you call that a belly? Now I got a belly"!), if you're not feeling any love for form fitting, then by all means, get rid of it.

mm88

I love 1 and 5!

I've done quite the opposite, from baggy and loose fit to slim fit, but I think that's just me embracing my inner "corporate b!tch".

Pfft belly, says the girl that wears size 0!

ironkurtin

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We're all our own worst critics. You're darling and you can wear WHATEVER YOU WANT.

christieanne

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Truly you must be comfortable in your choices so if pencils and sheaths don't do it for you, let it go. Sheaths are more likely to show the things we don't like about ourselves - with a pencil skirt, you can use more camouflage techniques by untucking, belting, wearing a longer jacket, etc. Doesn't seem like a fantasy you have bought into recently, more likely your eye has adapted to other styles.

Isabel

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Oh, I LOVE Suz's response !!! I am going to copy it ( it is not copyrighted, I hope ), you always have permission to look and feel fabulous.

Remember, those models are genetic freaks AND photoshopped. They don't even really look like themselves. : )

Vildy

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No 4 is so pretty. If you want to wear something with open pleats/tucks in the front,
try opening the waistband - I realize this is a dress - and turning the pleats the other
way and take another look.

Jilly

I guess I'm a little confused, lyn, because all these dresses except for #4 look like they have flare skirts. I think you have a lovely figure, btw, but I understand not being comfortable with a certain style

gradfashionista

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#1 and #5 are nice and I would second the opinion that it's most important for you to wear what you are comfortable in. You can fill in the the empty spaces in your wardrobe with things that you love and will wear frequently!

Sarah A

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i think 1 and 5 especially are quite lovely, but our styles are evolving and if these arent making you feel fab than no reason to feel like you have to wear them or store them. I have never seen any "belly" at all in your pics though...

Irene

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Oh, btw, I love all those dresses, but I am a romantic lover of flowers and frills so I'm not very objective here.

Meredith1953

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I think you look perfectly lovely in anything you wear but we do sometimes tire of certain styles and find others that express our personalities better. It isn't just what looks good on you....it's what you love and feel comfortable in that truly matters. I love pretty much anything I have seen you wear!

lyn*

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Thanks so much ladies ... I am definitely very good at hiding my belly, that's why it's not as noticeable in the pictures. I think I had some problems with a particular sheath dress that I donated ASAP after I posted ewwie belly pictures.

I am just very conscious of my belly, I guess ... *pokey pokey*

It is going away a bit. Darn medications. At least I have kidneys. Must tell myself that. Kidneys are important.

CocoLion

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NO NEED to embrace form fitting styles! I haven't for a while. I love oversized tops for that reason, I don't need to worry about my middle aged pooch.

A few weeks ago I tried on a dress at Ann Taylor. It was a fitted knit sheath with scrunching around the belly, intended to hide the imperfections. Well, I didn't like it on me. The sales girl suggested I wear Spanx with it. Excuse me? I know I'm not rail thin but I am not overweight and it is very hot in the summer, I would rather just find another dress style than have to wear Spanx.

lyn*

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Ugh; I tried spanx once ... it sucked.

Polly (thunalata)

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Love rae's response.

Lyn, I have never seen a belly, I have only ever seen you look fab and these dresses all look gorgeous but I trust your judgement!

K. Period.

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Lyn, you really do look great and it is impossible for us to see any belly issue. Still, I know that our own eye can pick up things that no one else sees (as evidence, I point to any minor acne breakout any woman has every suffered before a date). If it bugs you, you absolutely should give yourself permission to put those things away until they feel fun and fresh and fabulous. If they never do, then you can donate them. It may just be that those styles are looking tired to your eye and you need something new. The bottom line is that your clothes should be something that you think channels and amplifies the power of your fabulousness! Permission to be Super Fabulous You granted!

goldenpig

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Lyn, you look fabulous in everything you wear! I never see any belly issues--you are so slim looking--but as an apple myself, I can sympathize and I understand about getting rid of clothes that don't make you feel fab anymore. I would gladly help you out and take #1 and #4 off your hands! Hope you can find something that makes you feel as fab inside as you look to the rest of us!

crazyone

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I honestly don't think you have that much of a belly--people with larger bellies than yours wear and rock sheath dresses and pencil skirts all the time. But I agree with the others, wear what makes you feel comfortable! I don't have significant belly issues but I also prefer flared silhouettes for the most part, not only for ease of motion but also because I prefer the looser, flared vibe as an aesthetic, as well. To be honest, I don't love the Joan Mad Men look that much, for example.

catgirl

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*lyn, please take a lesson from me. I always moaned and groaned about my flabby belly and hid myself in loose clothing. NOW, 20 years and a child later, I would give anything to have THAT flabby belly back, instead of the very real one I have now. And 20 years from now, I'll be wishing for this one.

You are absolutely perfect and if I looked like you in a dress I would wear nothing but flouncy floral dresses, UWP or not.

nancylee

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I'm another one who sees no belly, Lyn. Wear what you are most comfortable with--and what fits with your current style sense--but be assured that you have a lovely shape.

Aida

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Wear what you love! If you're not wearing pencil skirts because you love a-line skirts, so be it

(I also see no belly, disguises or otherwise, but I know how we tend to over-see the things we worry about. And yes, kidneys ARE important!)